A soulmate relationship is going to bring change into your life. We are not just talking about the kind of change where you will have a closely connected romantic partnership, but change that results from dealing with the dynamics of your soulmate relationship. Hopefully you will change, grow and evolve and so will your soulmate. When both parties ‘get it’ and are willing to make the changes they need to make for this relationship to truly work, there is balance. During your soulmate relationship you will receive many of the life lessons you might need in order to have a successful long-term relationship.
During times of separation and even break-ups, the two soulmates who make up the soulmate relationship are supposed to continue to grow and work on themselves. But do they really? Or, do they spend their time crying and obsessing over the break-up? Sure we understand that the break-up of a soulmate relationship can be particularly difficult, frustrating and overwhelming, but what are you doing for yourself during this time?
You have attracted this soulmate relationship into your life because you more than likely need to reassess some aspects of how you deal with relationships….and before this soulmate relationship can be successful, you will probably have to understand and accept the part of your personality, character or relationship behavior that might need a little ‘work’. How do you handle your romantic partner pulling back or withdrawing? How do you deal with a lack of communication? How do you feel when he hangs out with the guys? Is this a dysfunctional relationship, and you know you need to end it, but you stay in the hope that he will change?
Relationships are usually the best in the beginning. The firsts weeks, or even months, of a relationship where you are getting know each other are fast paced, exciting, and filled with romantic interludes. Just because that period of time must naturally come to an end does not indicate that the relationship is failing. One of the parties will naturally pull back because they have to pay bills, go to work, cut their grass or get their hair cut. Life comes along and throws a good dose of reality. If this usually creates a feeling of chaos and fear within you, this is probably one of the life lessons that is being highlighted in your soulmate relationship. If you usually freak-out, panic, do drive-bys, stalk him on Facebook or text him every 10 minutes, your behavior might need a little modifying. And with a soulmate relationship you are actually being called up by the Universe to make these changes so you can have a mature romantic relationship.
Some people need a lot of communication in a relationship, as it helps them feel secure about where the relationship is headed. If your soulmate is the strong, silent type, you may have to rely upon yourself for you own security. If your soulmate is not able to communicate with you every few hours, you will have to find a way to deal with it. You are being called upon by the Universe to deal with this aspect of yourself that needs a little kick. It may be difficult to change your behavior and your fears and insecurities may get the best of you, but by attracting this soulmate into your life, you have told the Universe you are ready to heal this aspect of yourself.
Sometimes even a soulmate relationship can become dysfunctional, sad but so very true. If you get stuck in one dysfunctional relationship after another what is your normal course of action? Do you hold on with a death grip, hoping and praying that things will magically improve? Has your soulmate relationship brought a lot of drama into your life? Are you tired of the roller coaster ride of not knowing where it is going or what he is going to do about it? What are you going to do about? Perhaps the Universe is calling you to change your behavior when you find yourself in a relationship, even a soulmate relationship, that is no longer making you happy. What is the life lesson here for you? Can the relationship be fixed? It will not magically fix itself, you will have to take action to fix it…or end it.
These are just a few examples of how a soulmate relationship can change you for the better. Of course there are some examples of soulmate relationships that could possibly change you for the worse, which we will cover in a later blog.
How has your soulmate relationship changed you? Have you learned to detach? Have you learned to focus on yourself? Have you learned patience or unconditional love? We welcome you to share your experiences with us and our readers!