What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Soulmate Limbo

The Memory of a Soulmate and How It Affects You

The memory of a soulmate affects different people in different ways. For some, the memory of a soulmate makes them wonder what went wrong in the relationship. They can obsess on what they did wrong, what they could have done differently, or if the whole thing was a figment of their imagination. For people like that, the memory of a soulmate keeps them from moving forward.


Even people in a soulmate relationships that are in a very dysfunctional state allow the memory of good times to cloud their judgement. They remember the time when things were good, and believe that is how things should be, and will be, if they just hang in there. They hope being loving toward their soulmate will in turn cause them to return that love. In many cases, just hanging in there and being loving just makes things worse for the couple.

The Memory of a Soulmate

                                The Memory of a Soulmate


Sometimes the memory of how things were for soulmates, during good times, holds people back from doing what really needs to be done to make the relationship better. Forget about the past for now. Don’t even focus so much on the future. You need to put your attention on the present because it is what will shape your relationship going forward. Look at the problems you are currently facing, and look for new ways to create change. Stop using the behaviors you used in the past. Those clearly didn’t work.


Stop contributing to the dysfunction in your relationship, and set about creating a new improved relationship. You may be in for the fight of your life, but it is a fight you can win. You just need to be brave, just like you want your soulmate to be. You want your soulmate to be strong, well you have to be strong too.


What do you think your soulmate’s memory of you is? Do they think you have changed? Have you lost their respect? If you have, then you can look back and see where you let go of your self-respect. Vow to not do that ever again, not even for your soulmate.


The memory of a soulmate can be a good thing when you are looking for a new relationship. Some soulmates have had to let go of their soulmate for the present time. They find it very hard to find someone new to care about, and blame the memory of a soulmate. Look at it this way: If your soulmate made you raise the bar on what you want out of a relationship, that is a good thing. It keeps you from settling for something that is beneath you. And since you have raised the bar and want only the best in a partner, of course it is going to be harder to find. Pebbles are everywhere, diamonds are not. So don’t blame the memory of a soulmate from keeping you from finding someone new, because that is not always the case.


Sometimes the memory of a soulmate purposely keeps you from moving on because your soulmate will be returning. The universe triggers your soulmate memories to keep you from making a mistake or being involved with someone you shouldn’t be. Sometimes the memory of a soulmate, although painful, can save you from more pain down the line.


Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate obsession is very real and sometimes that strong connection you feel for someone can transform to a darker place. When people finally meet their soulmate, their love for them can become an obsession. They feel so much, too soon, for their soulmate and desire the relationship move along quickly so they can get to what they perceive to be the finish line. They are so excited the one they searched and hoped for is finally a part of their life. Unfortunately, they didn’t anticipate all the chaos and upheaval that can come with a soulmate relationship.

When these problems arise, and more often than not they will, soulmate obsession can take over. If you have read our many articles, you will know that soulmates often have a break period, or full break-up, in their relationship. This break can be long or short, occur only once, or repeatedly. During these breaks one of the soulmates can become obsessed with their partners every breath, thought, feeling and action. They feel that if they have this information they will have some sort of power, instead of feeling powerless, to help get through the period of disconnect and make sure their soulmate has not found someone else.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

They become more concerned with what is going on with their soulmate than what is transpiring in their own lives. Every little tidbit of information gleaned from social media, their friends or even stalking, they enhance and elaborate on with their imagination. This is not what the universe wants. The universe brings soulmates together to learn important life lessons and provide personal and spiritual growth. Are you stuck in a cycle of soulmate obsession wondering what they are doing and when they are coming back? Soulmate obsession can actually delay, or prevent altogether, the return of your soulmate because you are too focused on them rather than working on yourself.

Soulmate obsession is not relegated to waiting for a soulmate’s return. Many people become obsessed trying to find a soulmate. They feel they have waited forever and want to find them as quickly as possible, because they somehow feel incomplete without them. Every day an obsession with meeting a soulmate can grow exponentially and so does their disappointment and negativity. This obsession with “when will I meet my soul mate” doesn’t help anything. In actuality, it can hurt. How can you expect to attract your soul mate when you are sending out so much negativity? Since you are not in charge of when your soul mate shows up, why even focus on it? The universe will bring them in at the right time. That is their decision, not yours. So why try to take control over the universe by obsessing about your soulmate? If you believe in soulmates, and that there is one for you, let go of the “when”, because that is in the hands of destiny. Perhaps patience could be your lesson to learn?

The darkest part of soulmate obsession can occur when a soulmate ends a relationship. After being in an intense, super connected relationship with someone, you may find yourself at your lowest. As we mentioned, this is not the time to stalk their social media or try to discover everything going on their lives. This is the time for self-care where you truly focus on yourself. The emotional devastation that comes with losing a soulmate will take some time to heal. It is better to remove anything in your environment reminding you of your soulmate relationship and make a firm agreement with yourself to stay off the internet. Finding out what is going on in their life is not going to make you feel any better, it will only keep you stuck in the cycle of soulmate obsession. This is the time to spend time with friends and family who can nurture and support you, seek professional counseling to work through your loss or embark upon a journey of self-development.

The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it easy to obsess. When the going gets bad, it is better to have faith in the connection that brought you together. It is the lack of faith in the connection between soulmates when soulmate obsession creeps in. Do your best to keep the faith.

You may also want to consider the following posts:

Soulmate Separation Anxiety

How Can I Meet My Soulmate

Dark Night of the Soul and Soulmate Relationships


Soulmate Limbo Sucks

Soulmate Limbo Sucks

Soulmate limbo is a very difficult place to exist. Actually being in any kind of relationship limbo sucks, but especially so when you are in limbo waiting for your soulmate to get their act together. You feel you can not move forward with your life, because you don’t know what your soulmate is doing in regard to your relationship. You will often find yourself in soulmate limbo when on you have not heard from your soulmate in a few weeks, or longer. You can also be stuck in soulmate limbo after a breakup, if you believe and truly know, your soulmate will come back to you.

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Soulmate Limbo Sucks

When you are stuck in soulmate limbo you have to focus your attention, attitude and energy on getting unstuck. For most soulmate relationships, this is easier said than done.  If you are in a relationship where the soulmate connection is strong, you may even find it quite painful to be in soulmate limbo.  Soulmate separation anxiety can become extreme when you are stuck in soulmate limbo because not only are you without your soulmate, you have no idea what the hell is going on with them. All attempts, on your part, to reach them have gone unanswered and they have obviously decided to ignore you. Ignoring someone is one of the rudest things they can do because it shows you how little you matter to them.

When we realize you are stuck in soulmate limbo, we have to ask you, what are you doing for yourself and for your life? Are you waiting for the phone to ring or text message to appear? Are you counting the days since the last communication wondering if you will ever hear from your guy again? Change your focus. Instead of focusing on him and what he may, or may not be doing, focus on yourself and what you should be doing.

Are you stuck in soulmate limbo because you need to learn your soulmate lessons? Very often we will see these relationships hit the limbo place because either one of your, or even both of you, are not working on what needs to be addressed for your own personal growth. Soulmate relationships are not always about growing together, although growing the relationship certainly does happen when you are sharing your time and energy together. And that will come again, once you are out of the limbo state.  Are you supposed to be learning something new? Are you supposed to be focused on a career change? Are you supposed to be focused on transforming a part of yourself, either physically or spiritually, that must happen before your relationship can get moving again?

Being stuck in soulmate limbo sucks. You have not heard from your soulmate and wonder if you will ever hear from them again. If your soulmate has ended you relationship, you may wonder if you will get back together. Each soulmate relationship is different and quite often a different tactic will be required to try to fix it. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are soulmate specialists with over fifty years combined experience helping people resolve their love and relationship issues. A soulmate reading will help see why you are stuck in soulmate limbo and what you can do, if anything, to release it.

How Can I Get My Soulmate Back?

One of the biggest searches we see on our stats for this page is “how can I get my soulmate back?” We hear you and we understand that after you have lost your soulmate it is a horrible lonely frustrating world. But why exactly do you need to get your soulmate back? A soulmate connection is not one that is created out of need, fear, or obsession. A soulmate relationship is not supported by an addiction to your soulmate.  Soulmate love is not based on the desire to control because you fear losing them and feel you will not be complete without them. You are lost without your soulmate and you don’t know what to do….but, you can not get your soulmate back until they are ready to come back.

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were.
~Kahlil Gibran

There is nothing worse than having someone, or something, you really love with all your heart and then have it ripped away from you. It may be that another love interest entered the life of your soulmate, or a past love interest re-emerged. Perhaps your soulmate was promoted to a new position that took him to the other side of the country, or to the other side of the world. Maybe your soulmate had to resolve some personal issues that he could only address when he is by himself. Whatever the reason, your soulmate is gone, and you want him back. Furthermore, you are will to do anything to get him.

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How Can I Get My Soulmate Back?

We totally understand and empathize with your situation. The solution to every soulmate dilemma however is different. The way to fix your specific soulmate problem may be different from that of your best friend or anyone else. The solution to every soulmate relationship is different because the people in that relationship are all special and unique. What works for one may not necessarily work for another.This is when a soulmate reading with soulmate experts Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise will benefit you. Not only will they be able to provide honest, accurate predictions as to whether or not you and your soulmate will get back together, they will also give you the best guidance to help your specific situation.

If you are the type who likes to reach out to try to get your soulmate back, before you call, text, email, send flowers, smoke signals or naked photos of yourself, it is in your best interest to speak with us first.  Of course we realize you want to change the current dynamic because it leaves you feeling lonely, isolated and vulnerable. You want to fix it. You want to talk to him. You want to anything you can to make the situation change and get your soulmate back. Before wasting your time and energy, and possibly making the situation worse, a private consultation with Sarah or Sophia will reveal if you can get your soulmate back and clarify the right course of action you should take to provide the best possible outcome.

We gave you some details on Interfering with Your Soulmate’s Lessons and while trying to get your soulmate back is not necessarily interfering in his lessons, it more than likely is preventing you from addressing yours. If you are so focused on trying to win him back, there will be some valuable life lessons of your own you will probably miss. Is the life lesson to relinquish your control, or death grip, on the energy of the situation? Is the life lesson to step back and focus on yourself, if your romantic partner pulls away for a bit? If your relationship is ended, is it time for you to learn how to let go and move on to the next phase of your life?

Whatever the lesson is for you, the best course of action you should take for the most important person in this soulmate relationship, yourself. If you need to pay your bills, clean your house, get the oil changed in your car, mow the lawn, paint the walls and a hundred other things you have neglected while you have been plotting and planning how to win him back, your focus needs to be shifted.Whether your soulmate comes back to your or not, you need to keep your own life running as best you can. This will ensure that regardless of his actions, your life is still where it is supposed to be.


Soulmate Strength Are You Strong or Weak?

Soulmate Strength Are you Strong or Weak?

What is the degree of your soulmate strength? Soulmate relationships are designed to make stronger, not weaker. So why is it some soulmate relationships make you behave in a weak and disempowered way? We have written about the strength between soulmates. The strength of the connection, love, commitment and so much more. But there is also a weakness associated with the connection, love and commitment. When it comes to soulmates, the strength of our emotion for our soulmate quite can make us feel powerless and cause us to act in ways that are perceived as weak.

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Soulmate Strength – Strong or Weak?

In this particular situation though strength and weakness reveal themselves at the wrong times. For example, if your soulmate is weak, and cannot embrace the soulmate connection, you should not use your strength to help the weaker soulmate become stronger. If you do this, you will become weak as well and do the wrong things to support and enable their weakness.


If your soulmate is not engaging with you fully, and is in and out of your life, they will be able to use your soulmate connection against you. Now it is time for the excuses: “I know I shouldn’t let them do this, but they are my soulmate, and I am afraid of losing them.”


This fear will cause you to say, think and do all the wrong things. Your soulmate connection with this person is now not being utilized to pursue the things you need to do in this relationship. Instead of giving you the strength to address the lessons you need to learn, you allow the connection to be your excuse to be driven by fear. Your soulmate is already doing that, which is creating the problem in the first place. So how could you think that by doing the same thing, your relationship will improve? It won’t. It keeps the two of you stuck in fear and weakness, rather than acceptance and strength.


When you allow your soulmate to use your connection the wrong way, you both wind up hurting and frustrated. Unfortunately, you will be the one with the most pain and frustration. The person who has accepted and embraced the soulmate connection should be using that as their strength. It should be what you hold on to, rather than cling to out of fear. If you want your soulmate to have the strength to make changes and be brave, shouldn’t you lead by example? If you are filled with weakness and fear, how can you expect your soulmate to be brave and courageous? You know how strong your bond is, and instead of finding peace, comfort and validation in that, you are worried and miserable. Now you are taking this blessing and turning it into a curse.


This is all wrong. There is a reason why your soulmate is not “ready” and your relationship is not moving forward. Instead of pinning it all on them and wondering why they are not getting it together, making changes and doing what they need to do, look at what you may be doing, or not doing,that could be causing them to remain in “soulmate limbo”. It is better for you and your soulmate relationship if you approach it from the position of soulmate strength, as opposed to soulmate weakness. In soulmate relationships, only the strong survive!


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