What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Relationship Advice

Are You a Secret Soulmate?

Are you a secret soulmate? Has your soulmate kept your relationship a secret from their friends, family, and co workers? Have you gotten tired of being a part of their life yet you are not allowed to be a part of theirs?

 

When your soulmate keeps you a secret, you wind up feeling left out. You don’t go with your soulmate to their work functions. You don’t get to join them with their family at holidays, special occasions and significant events. When their friends invite them anywhere, they never take you along.

Are You a Secret Soulmate?

                Are You a Secret Soulmate?

It may make you wonder exactly how important you really are to your soulmate. How can they say they love you so much and want you in their life when so much of their life is off-limits to you? They say things will change, but as time goes by, you are beginning to lose hope. You have heard their excuses and at first may have felt understanding or compassionate for them. But lately, or for a long time now, you are beginning to get mad and frustrated.

 

How can your soulmate relationship grow if your existence in their lives is kept a secret? It really can’t. How can you trust them if to everyone else they know thinks they are single? Your soulmate has been lying to everyone in their lives by denying their involvement with you. If and when you actually do meet these people, you are going to have to start your relationship with them with lies. Not exactly a good foundation to build a relationship on, is it?

 

And what about your soulmate’s excuses? What is a good excuse for making you their secret soulmate? Are they involved with someone else? Well, rather than continuing to live a lie and cheating, the time has to come where they love you enough to let go of their previous relationship. Yes, ending a relationship is difficult, but you may have to suspend your relationship with your soulmate until they do.

 

Obviously the relationship they are in is not working for them, and they were lucky enough to be blessed with the connection they have with you. Once they are sure of both your feelings and know you are both in it for the long haul, all excuses are no longer excusable. So they will lose money. Big deal. They can make more that they wont have to share and can rebuild.

 

How their family and friends react to your relationship should not matter. If they want this relationship with you they should be brave enough to fight for it. No one likes a coward, and since they are not in danger of losing their life, they should be more than willing to fight for a soulmate relationship. A soulmate relationship should be cherished, not banished behind the scenes, kept a secret, in the dark. If your soulmate wants to keep you in their life, they are going to have to let you be a part of their entire life.

 

How to Deal with a Selfish Soulmate

How do you deal with a selfish soulmate? With a selfish soulmate your relationship is very one-sided, and your needs are not being met. We all want to express our love to our soulmate, expecting nothing in return for it, because we have learned soulmate relationships are about unconditional love. That works fine for most couples, but when one of you is a selfish soulmate, you become very aware of everything you do and how little you get in return.

 

We want to make our soulmate a priority, and their happiness is important to us. We just want to feel important to them as well. It doesn’t have to be exactly even, but when you are contributing 100% and they are putting in 0%, it is almost impossible to not feel resentment toward them. What we used to do for them that made us feel good, now makes us feel bad.

How to Deal with a Selfish Soulmate

How to Deal with a Selfish Soulmate

 

Now we feel stupid for being so nice to them because they take it for granted. We get frustrated waiting for them to finally make us feel important to them. We never used to mind them getting their way, but now we are tired of them always getting their way. We want a partner, we want someone who contributes to the relationship, we don’t want to do it all ourselves.

 

So how can we turn the tables? How can we change a selfish soulmate? Is it even possible? In many cases change can happen, but you have to be careful how you go about it. If you tell someone they are selfish, in many cases they will either look at you like you are crazy, or they will turn it back around on you.

 

It is best to begin by changing your actions. But do it subtly. For instance, let’s say your soulmate always behaves selfishly by forcing their opinion on where you should eat dinner to get their way. This time, don’t back down. Stand your ground, but don’t tell them you are doing it to make a point. Instead, just become immune to the tactics they use to change your mind or give in to them. If they sulk or complain during dinner, don’t feed into it. Instead, put on a happy face and just keep talking about how much you are enjoying your dinner.

 

The next time, if they try this again, tell them that you are not in the mood to go to the place they want, but why not get take out from two different places? They are very used to getting their way, so they will not like this new behavior in you. Now they are going to have to get used to something new, which is you having a say in your plans and restaurant choices.

 

Is your soulmate so selfish that they give you a list of things they want you to do for them, but when you ask them to do one thing for you, they complain? From now on when they ask you to do a favor for them, tell them you don’t have time. Tell them since you have to do all your things yourself, you don’t have time to help them out. Again, they are not going to like it. Who cares? They will get over it.

 

When they are done sulking or being mad, they will try to start that again. When they ask for yet another favor, tell them sure, you will do that for them but only if they can do something you need, or you won’t have time. There is a chance they won’t do what they promised even though you do, and that’s ok. When they ask yet again, do the same thing again, but now don’t do their favor UNTIL they do yours. Yes, it sucks that you have to be like this, but it’s gotten out of control, and it has to be fixed. You enabled some of their selfish behavior, and now you have to put a stop to it. Sometimes we create our own selfish monsters, and it is time we turned them back into loving soulmates.

 

Are You in a Bad Soulmate Relationship?

Are you in a bad soulmate relationship? Has the communication broken down so badly that you either barely speak or fight all the time? Is your soulmate putting demands on you that you can’t meet? Are you distrustful of your soulmate? Is your bad soulmate relationship to the point of being separated, divorced or broken up? Do you and your soulmate distrust one another? Do you or your soulmate create drama and problems whenever possible? Do you and your soulmate constantly break up and get back together?

Has your soul mate cheated on you or vise versa? Do you or your soul mate have an issue with an addiction? Does your soul mate relationship have verbal or physical abuse in it? Is your soulmate still in another relationship? Does your soul mate go back and forth between you and someone else? Does your soul mate rarely have time to spend with you or communicate with you? Does your soul mate refuse to express their feelings?

Are You in a Bad Soulmate Relationship?

Are You in a Bad Soulmate Relationship?

If you can answer yes to any of these questions, then you are in a bad soulmate relationship. It is only going to get worse unless something drastically different is done. What is going on between you and your soulmate is no longer working. Change needs to occur, and it needs to begin at once.

Many people are shocked at how bad their soul mate relationship can become. They are surprised to see the level of dysfunctional behavior within it. They believed once they met their soulmate it was going to be a breeze going forward. Now, it is more like a tornado of epic size has hit them right where it hurts most.

Even though a lot of damage has occurred, the relationship can be rebuilt. If done properly, without cutting corners, it will be stronger and better than ever. Too many people want to cut corners or do things the easy way, and with soulmate relationships, this never works. Think of how much you have already put up with it. Think of how much you have already tried. None of that worked, so stop wasting your energy and your effort on what you thought was the easy way.

You didn’t make things better. You both made them worse, which is now harder to fix. If you want your bad soulmate relationship to get better, you need to get realistic. It took a long time to get to this level of insanity. It is going to take a long time to create change for the better, make it stick, and build a new foundation.

This is not going to take days or weeks. Prepare yourself realistically. Look at your part in the relationship. Look how you purposely avoiding handling your soulmate when they acted out. Look at what you have been afraid to do. Most likely, that may be the very thing you need to do. You can’t expect the universe or God to do this for you. If you want this relationship to go from good to bad then get to work. Otherwise, your bad soulmate relationship will continue to get worse and worse.

Dating a Soulmate Before Divorce

Dating a soulmate before a divorce is quite commonplace. We cannot tell you the amount of times we have heard from clients who met their soulmate while one, or both of them were married. They had thought about divorce before, but decided, for whatever reason, not to act on it. Then a soulmate comes into their lives and now must face the reality that is their marriage.

Soulmates often meet, begin dating, and carry on affairs because both of them are not single. Regardless of how far along you are in the divorce process, until you are single, you are having an affair. The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it very difficult to wait until a divorce is final so they often begin dating before a divorce is finalized.

Dating a Soulmate Before Divorce

Dating a Soulmate Before Divorce

When you meet a soulmate, you want your life with them to start immediately. They are all you manage to think about and you can throw caution to the wind. A divorce is a serious decision to make, and although they can take a long time, they don’t take forever. A divorce can get complicated when the other party knows about the new soulmate. The one being divorced, who has not moved on, doesn’t really want the other to move on and be happy so they use stall tactics to cause problems. The sad thing is that it often works.

The drama of a divorce can bring out the worst in all of us. It is hard to stay classy, calm and sane when the other party is behaving in the opposite way. You may not want to go to war with your soon to be ex, and would prefer the divorce to be amicable. But if your soon to be ex finds out you met your soulmate, World War 3 seem tame compared to your divorce.

If you and your soulmate begin dating before hiring an attorney or filing for divorce, you are probably making the wrong move. Instead of beginning an affair, begin the process of ending your marriage. First things first. If this person is so important to you that you will be willing to lie, cheat, and risk everything, shouldn’t they be important enough for you to hire an attorney and file some papers?

You cannot say you can’t resist the urge to begin dating a soul mate before divorce but you can resist the urge to end your prior relationship. That just doesn’t make sense. If you want your soulmate in your life that bad, then you obviously don’t want your marriage in your life, so do the right thing.

When you begin dating a soulmate before a divorce you allow them to have a sacred relationship and disrespect it by lying, cheating and everything else that comes with an affair. If this connection is so strong, and this person means that much to you, then keep your soulmate in your life, but work on your future together by properly getting closure on your past. Don’t let someone (or be someone) use excuse after excuse as to why they can’t get divorced. If they can’t get divorced, then they can’t have you. Often a soulmate is supposed to make you realize a part of your life (such as a marriage) is over, and that you need to make changes that you have been avoiding. By having an affair you are still avoiding the changes you need to make, so expect the problems that come with avoidance.

Has Your Soulmate Lost Their Feelings for You?

Has your soulmate lost their feelings for you? Have they gone from a loving, caring person to a cold, unfeeling person you no longer recognize? Soulmates, for many reasons, always seem to worry about the other losing their feelings. In some ways it is understandable. Soulmates think their own feelings are so strong and overpowering that their soulmate must surely feel the same way. Any time the couple has a fight or don’t have communication for a few days, they assume their soulmate’s feelings have vanished. This is not true.

Has Your Soulmate Lost Their Feelings for You

Has Your Soulmate Lost Their Feelings for You?

 

Soulmates can have a tendency to love hard and fight hard. Struggles soulmates face causes fear to surface that one day their soulmate may lose their feelings. It is hard for them to comprehend that someone could love and care for them as much as they do for their soul mate. They also question how someone who loves them, as much as they claim, could distance themselves, go silent, or mistreat them in any way. They draw the conclusion that they are losing their feelings, otherwise they could not do this. Again, not true in every case.

 

Soulmates can misbehave, just like the rest of us, and are not on their best behavior when they fight. This is most likely to occur before soulmates have learned their lessons. Even if your soulmate reveals they may be losing their feelings for you, don’t believe them just yet. It could be something they are saying to keep you on your toes or something they are saying to sabotage your relationship for one reason or another. When something like this occurs, take a long, hard look around and see what may really be causing this outburst. It may be something deeper or even something they are avoiding. They may be using their words as a way of distracting you from the real issue. You should be smart enough to assess your relationship and what you have done and said to know if there is any good reason for them to say that to you.

 

If your soulmate claims they have lost their feelings and want to move on, you have no choice but to let them. You cannot convince them or beg them to stay. That won’t work in your favor. You may have to sit still and wait it out for them to realize their feelings have not faded, or they are willing to admit they never really lost their love for you at all. It is a very hard thing to go through and very painful. You may want to do all you can to stop them from leaving, but this never really works. If someone wants to leave, they will leave. But that does not mean they won’t come back.

 

Soulmate relationships do end, not all of them work out. If the relationship is problematic and the couple will not learn the lessons they need to, the relationship may come to an end. But even then, it does seem in so many cases, that soulmates never really lose their feelings for each other, even if they are apart.

 

 

SOPHIA ELISE

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