What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Life Lessons

Soulmate Tests: Are You Passing or Failing?

Is your soulmate failing all the soulmate tests the universe is presenting to you both individually and as a couple? Has your soulmate turned their back on you or denied your soulmate connection? Have they tested your strength and sanity with irrational or cruel behavior? Has your soulmate disappeared, refusing to see or speak to you? Has your soulmate run from your arms to someone else’s?

 

If your soulmate has done any of the above, they are seriously failing their soulmate tests. The universe does not bring soulmates into our lives for just romance and happy times. The true path of the soulmate connection is to change our perspective on the direction our life path is headed. Our soulmates are there to help us see the changes that we need to make in order to be more fulfilled and to live our best and most authentic lives.

 

Soulmate relationships always come with a series of soulmate tests. If we keep failing test after test, the lessons will just get harder and harder. If we keep failing our soulmate tests, the Universe can often resort to smashing our heads with a 2X4 or drop the equivalent of a 14 pound bowling ball on our heads, until we get the lesson. So before your soulmate relationship hits the breaking point, learn to pass the tests, instead of failing.
 

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Soulmate Tests: Passing or Failing?

Keep in mind that each of you may have tests both individually, and as a couple. Whatever test the universe is giving your soulmate, it is up to them to pass or fail. You can help them, but you can’t take the test for them. That’s cheating. You may be doing things with the best of intentions, but are setting your soulmate up to keep failing the test. Interfering in your soulmate’s lessons will only cause them to be tested again, until they can stand on their own two feet.

 

For example, if the Universe may want your soulmate to stop sabotaging the good things that come into their life. They may have a pattern of behavior in relationships, or other areas of their life, where acting out or being unreasonable sabotages their relationship with you. The Universe put you in this relationship to be a catalyst for change, not to enable them.

 

Perhaps the Universe, at the same time, wants you to learn to stand up for yourself. If you enable your soulmate by accepting and feeding into their bad behavior, you set them up to keep failing. You will keep failing your test as well, because you are not standing your ground. So what might seem to be the right thing, or easier thing, to do actually the wrong thing to do. You may say “Well, I am not a confrontational person”. And that may be exactly what the universe wants you to change.

 

Of course, they don’t want to you to become banshee confrontational, but they want you to confront things head on when needed. This may be a hard test for you to pass, but it was not meant to be easy. Otherwise you would not be getting this lesson at this point in your life. You contracted with your soulmate to have this life lesson with them for your own personal growth and development. Their soulmate contract with you was to stop sabotaging their relationships.

 

The Universe wants you to work on this because it benefit you at some point in the future. If you are tired of retaking the same tests over and over again, learn your lesson. It should be obvious that what you are presently doing to keep the peace isn’t working. So isn’t it time to really learn what the Universe is really telling you? If you want your life, and your soul mate relationship, to get better YOU need to do better. If something isn’t working, stop doing the same thing over and over again to try to fix it. Try something new. As they say, you can’t change anything until you change yourself. In changing yourself, you may have a much better chance of passing, not failing the test. Passing your soulmate tests can actually create a dynamic to help your soulmate pass their tests as well.

 

Breaking the Rules in Soulmate Relationships

Is your soulmate breaking the rules? Has your soulmate taken your sacred, spiritual connection and used it to drive you insane?

 

When a soulmate is breaking the rules, expect all hell to break loose. Because of the strong, deep connection between souls, there seems to be a tendency to not only break the rules, but to get away with breaking the rules. When one soulmate breaks the rules, it’s on them, and they need to take responsibility. However, if the other soulmate doesn’t stay strong by enforcing boundaries, instead letting them get away with murder, it is on both of them. You are both responsible for breaking the rules.

 

Breaking the Rules in Soulmate Relationships

              Breaking the Rules in Soulmate Relationships

You may think you should let your soulmate break the rules, even if you wouldn’t let anyone else break those same rules. You figure since it is your soulmate, you should give them special treatment.

 

That is partially correct. You should give your soulmate special treatment by not allowing them to do things that disrespect this special bond you both share.

 

It’s kind of sacrilegious to see how some couples in spiritual soulmate relationships act as if they are possessed by demons. A lot of these same people think that they can act like that and the universe will keep them together. Wrong. The universe is not going to support behavior like that, nor will they assist in helping a soulmate couple continue to be disrespectful to the gift the universe has given them.

 

Your soulmate could be breaking the rules such as cheating on you or denying your connection entirely. Don’t let their rule breaking cause you to lower your standards. We understand you want to fight for your relationship, and you should. You just have to make sure you are fighting the right fight.

 

Stooping to lower level behavior is not fighting the right fight. Keep yourself elevated, and let your soulmate learn from the consequences you dish out every time they break the rules. And please don’t think having in depth conversations about their behavior and how it hurt you is going to be enough. Stop being a scaredy cat and get with the program. Your soulmate is supposed to learn lessons that make them a better person. So are you.

 

You are NOT supposed to be teaching them that behavior such as theirs is okay. You have to learn to stand up for what is right, not accept what is wrong because you are afraid. Don’t break the rules along with your soulmate. There are some rules that are pretty common for all couples, but each couple has a few unique ones of their own. Honor each other by not breaking those rules, and expecting or dishing out punishment depending on if you are on the giving or receiving end.

 

Divine Timing and Soulmates: When is the Right Time?

Timing and soulmates should not appear in the same sentence because it can be truly confusing, even to us. Some people will meet a soulmate when they are young, while others connect with a soulmate later in life. There is no set time or date on which a soulmate will enter your life, because it is all based on divine timing.

Divine Timing and Soulmates: When is the Right Time?

Divine Timing and Soulmates: When is the Right Time?

 

Not everyone can meet their soulmate at the same time in their lives. Some are lucky enough to find their soulmate early on while some have to wait what may feel to them like several lifetimes. It is all based on the spiritual blueprint for our lives and the experiences we need to have for the fulfillment of our personal destinies. We gain these experiences through our journey here on Earth and the choices we make on a daily basis create our path.

 

We are partially responsible for the timing of a soulmate’s entry into our lives. For instance, you could make a bad decision, staying in the wrong relationship way past its expiration date. Instead of letting it go and freeing yourself from a dysfunctional relationship, you stay. And stay, and stay. You have probably wasted a ton of time trying to make the wrong person the right person. Look at all the negative experiences you went through because you kept hoping for change that was never going to materialize.

 

Sure, the universe often brings soulmates together when they are not single, but that is usually when the relationships have gone on way too long. If the relationships actually ended when they reached their expiration date, the timing of a soulmate meeting could have happened a lot sooner. While the timing of a soulmate entering our lives is not completely up to us, the choices we make will have an effect on the timing. So choose wisely.

 

Think about the long-term effects of the choices you make. You do not have to focus on the timing, the “when will I meet my soul mate” or obsess about it. Just have faith that the universe knows what it is doing and leave it to them. Keep yourself focused on yourself. Look closer at the spiritual path you are on. A spiritual journey is mostly a solitary one because many people ignore their spiritual practice when they are caught up in the rush of a soulmate relationship, until that relationship goes south.

 

It is a good time to put some energy into you. Take the time to think about where you see yourself in 3 years, 5, years, 10 years and beyond. Are you on the right path to make that all happen? If not, you may need to concentrate on what you have to do to get yourself on the right path. Put your energy there for now. What can you learn from your previous relationships? What mistakes have you made when you look back on them?

 

Are there any changes you need to make in your life before the Universe allows them to enter your life? It’s time to make yourself the best self you can be. Just like you would take the time to dress nice, smell good, put on make up and do your hair to go on any date, prepare yourself for your soulmate meeting. Want to lose weight? Stop smoking? Be less insecure and more confident?

 

Consider putting yourself through a soulmate bootcamp where you make the changes you know you need to make before you meet your soulmate, or you will have to do them when a soulmate is in your life. Soulmate relationships force those things about you that you should have changed long ago to surface. Getting rid of them beforehand will allow your soulmate relationship to flourish without having to focus on issues you needed to change.

 

Why Does Your Soulmate Hurt You?

Why does your soulmate hurt you? Isn’t a soulmate relationship supposed to be a relationship with a higher standard? Why would a soulmate hurt your feelings, especially for no good reason?

 

First of all, soulmates have very deep feelings for one another by way of their deep soul connection. Unfortunately, this does not mean they won’t hurt you. Usually they will hurt you much more than a regular, or mundane, relationship.

Why Does Your Soulmate Hurt You?

Why Does Your Soulmate Hurt You?

Soulmate relationships are very tricky and often hard to navigate. When feelings run high, tensions often run high as well. Due to the hurdles soulmates often have to jump over, hurt feelings are often a part of the package. If the lessons to be learned are avoided on either side, you can pretty much guarantee there will be a lot of hurt feelings as well.

 

Just because this person is your soulmate, does not mean you give them carte blanche to repeatedly hurt you feelings. You are supposed to raise your standard with a soulmate, not lower it. If you do lower your standards by allowing them to do hurt you in ways you would not let anyone else on earth, you are not learning your lessons either.

 

The universe would not support a relationship where one soulmate constantly hurts another and the other one tolerates it. This is not what that union was created for, so don’t expect a miracle from them. Your soulmate has to stop hurting you and you have to stop waiting for them to hurt you and do something about it.

 

You may not like what you have to do, but too bad. You want this relationship to work out? Then do the work, or enable it to be ruined. It’s up to you. You know what you need to do, in most cases, you are just afraid to do it. Fear and your insecurities are not exactly the best advisors are they? Do what you know is right, and stop doing what is safe.

 

Stop using the soulmate excuse. Stop blaming your connection for the reason you are allowing your soulmate to hurt you over and over again. Yes, the connection is there. The universe created it, but don’t blame them. They are not forcing you to remain in a connection that hurts you. Own up to your responsibility of the misuse of the connection you share.

 

In so many, many cases a soulmate will hurt you because they are trying to work out the connection they have with you and what they must face because of you. While they work though that, you may get hurt in the process. If your soulmate is in denial about having this bond with you, how they react to that is most assuredly going to hurt your feelings. That isn’t about you per say, but it is about them accepting what is happening.

 

It does not excuse them, just try not to take it too personally, which we realize is easier said than done. If it is hurting you too much, distance yourself from them until they work through it on their own. You are not responsible for being their teacher all the time. They learned to talk, write, drive and do math. They can learn their own lessons if you need to remove yourself from the situation for a while.

 

When a soulmate is working through their own issues and feelings they may not understand or be aware of how their words, decisions or behaviors hurt you. If you don’t make your hurt feelings aware enough to them, and not just with words but actions, then they won’t think it is really a big deal. Never be so compassionate to someone else, even a soulmate, that you constantly sacrifice your own feelings, and allow yourself to be hurt over and over again.

Is Your Soulmate Testing You?

Is your soulmate testing you? Do you feel as though your soulmate has tested every nerve you have? Do you think your soulmate has tested your patience and love almost to the breaking point? Does your soulmate play game to test how strong your tolerance levels are? Have you wondered when all of this testing will be over? Are you afraid you may be failing these tests? You feel as though it is one test after the other. You feel you have proven yourself over and over, but the tests keep on coming.

What should you do when your soulmate keeps testing you? Sometimes it is the universe that throws the tests at us. These tests are supposed to challenge both soulmates. By supporting and turning towards one another the tests should be passed. But when soulmates turn away from one another or don’t support one another the test is easily failed. This is one of the main reasons soulmate relationships fail when the universe is testing them.

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Is Your Soulmate Testing You?

When the universe is testing soulmates, it is the time for you to work together. Unfortunately, this is when soulmate tend to turn on one another. Look at your soulmate relationship. Look at the times it was in crisis. Let’s say one of you lost your job and it seriously affected your standard of living. Did the other soulmate offer support? Was that support accepted? Or did the soulmate who lost their job withdraw, or become argumentative? Did the soulmate who lost their job want to handle it all by themselves? That is ego.

When you are part of a relationship you are supposed to join together to handle things that affect both of you. This is the only way your soulmate relationship can pass through times the universe is testing its strength. Soulmates should be showing their strengths to each other, not their weaknesses.

The universe may not be the only thing testing you. Your soulmate may decide to do some testing of their own. No matter how many times you pass their “test” it will never be enough. The testing will continue throughout, and to the detriment of, the relationship. Let’s say your soulmate keeps testing your patience. You have been waiting for them to end a relationship to be with you. For how long and how many times has your patience been tested? The simple fact that your relationship has continued means you keep passing the test.

But where is it getting you? Anywhere? No. All it is getting you is frustrated and mad at your soulmate. Your soulmates test was to get them out of their previous relationship. You were the catalyst for them to change and embrace a more fulfilling relationship. They were not supposed to turn around and test YOU. They failed their test. And in reality, their testing you is failing your relationship as well.

It may be time for you to test your soulmate relationship and turn things around. Stand with the universe and not against it. Sure, it may not be easy for them to leave their relationship, but is it any harder than you waiting? No, it is not. So stop allowing your soulmate to continue testing your relationship, and given them a test of your own.

SOPHIA ELISE

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