What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

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Predestined Relationships and Soulmates

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Predestined Relationships and Soulmates

Many people believe in predestined relationships. But what exactly is a predestined relationship? Well we don’t believe predestined relationships exist. However, we do believe that destiny brings two people together through chance encounters, the crossing of paths or the aligning of the stars. While these may feel like chance encounters, serendipity or synchronicity, it is more so the karmic agreement you have with another soul. Before you were born, you and that soulmate decided that you would meet at a certain place and time because you had some things to work through together. So when we think of predestined relationship, it makes more sense to refer to agreements made with a soulmate for completion of a karmic task. That is the predestined part. There is never any guarantee it will turn into a relationship.

Some people believe soulmate relationships are predestined relationships that come with a guarantee for romantic success. And while this can be true in some cases, they don’t have the ability to see the full destiny of a relationship or its final outcome. Destiny most certainly plays a role when meeting someone who you might have never met under normal circumstances, for example. But destiny does not participate in how this relationship ultimately unfolds. Destiny has played its role by putting you both in the same place at the same time, but this does not indicate it is a predestined relationship. The chance encounter was predestined, but for the destiny to unfold, you much each make choices in your lives to support it. The Universe produces the connections, the free will we are all given determines where the relationship ultimately goes.

People who believe in predestined relationships might also believe the relationship will be full of roses and moonlight walks on the beach. Since destiny brought them together, that most certainly fate will kick in to make their predestined relationship the perfect romantic adventure. Destiny can only do so much; it won’t do all the work for you nor will it guarantee the quality of a relationship. So again while the opportunity to meet a romantic partner may be predestined by fates greater than yourselves, you much each individually do the work within the relationship. The two people involved in the relationship and their willingness to work together to build a happy healthy life produces a long-lasting partnership. If you believe in a set outcome for a predestined relationship, then what is the point of the actual dating process? Interesting food for thought.

If we consider that predestined relationships are defined before we are born, we must also agree that they will come with life lessons. As we have discussed in other blogs, many life lessons come through painful experiences, what has this predestined relationship come to teach you? Some of them can actually create wonderful relationships but unfortunately they can’t all be positive experiences. Destiny does not always bring us joyful events. Quite often destiny’s intervention is to learn a hard lesson. What happens when the going gets tough? The outcome of predestined relationships really relies on the partners and their willingness to work for a healthy happy relationship. Too often people drop the ball expecting fate and destiny to sustain their relationship when the need to do the work themselves to fulfill a life lesson.

If you believe that a relationship can be destined to work out, you also then must accept that some relationships may be destined to fail. You can’t have one without the other. Some predestined relationships, if the lesson is learned and is allowed to fail, leads the person to the right relationship for them. There have been countless people who have shared these experiences with us. For example, someone we will call “Mary” had what she believed was a predestined relationship turn into a complete disaster. No matter how hard she tried to make it work she hit obstacles and barriers that could not overcome. Their meeting was predestined and she believed that alone indicated the relationship would last. In truth, the relationship made her so miserable. She refused to throw in the towel, because she believed so strongly in the predestined relationship that just had to work out in the end. She was wrong. This relationship was predestined, but not for the reason Mary thought. Once she learned the lesson this predestined relationship provided, and let that relationship go, a better relationship entered her life. Looking back, she could see how the experience of the predestined relationship led her to the happy fulfilling relationship she is enjoying today. So in truth, this predestined relationship, although it failed, ultimately led her to a successful romantic partnership.

Destiny is not cupid. Destiny does not surround your relationship in a protective bubble to keep your relationship together forever. Predestined relationships allow us to take the opportunities we are given and make the best of them, regardless of the final outcome. The beginning of a relationship can be predestined, but you must all take responsibility for how the relationship unfolds.

What is your predestined relationship destined to be? What are you supposed to be learning, changing or doing in your current relationship to ensue the most positive outcome for you? Sarah and Sophia can provide clarity and insight into the specific purposes of predestined relationships in your lives.

Relationship Karma : What Have You Learned?

Relationship Karma What Have you Learned?

Relationship karma is something we each carry with us in just about every relationship we have. Relationship karma can be found in the relationships we have with family, friends, co-workers, the Starbuck’s barista as well as all your romantic relationships. Not every relationship will have karma and not every relationship is karmic but we will learn fundamental lessons in life by engaging in relationships with karmic connections and soulmates. You might also want to check out our blog that details the difference between a karmic and soulmate relationships Karmic Relationships vs Soulmate Relationships.

When someone has a strong intuitive connection, Buddhism suggests that it’s because of karma, some past connection. ~~Richard Gere

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Relationship Karma

 

Many people believe that karma is punishment for past actions but the karma police are not going to come and get you and turn you into an earthworm in your next life, for any misdeeds you commit. The purpose of karma is to teach, not to punish. But what exactly is karma? It is a Sanskrit word for action and the universal law of cause and effect that says everything we do and say carries energy into the world that effects our present reality. Every action, has a reaction. In other words, every word we speak, decision we make and action we take creates and energetic imprint on our life. We create our reality from those thoughts, words and deeds. Additionally karma is connected to our life blueprint and the soulmate contracts we have with the collective soulmates we have in our lives. This of course will include life lessons and both the spiritual and personal growth we need to evolve as humans on the planet.

 

Karma, ahhh. We sow what we reap… We reap what we sow! We reap what we sow. The law of cause and effect. And we are all under this law. ~~ Nina Hagen

If the purpose of karma is to teach, the purpose of relationship karma is to teach you about relationships. Relationship karma is the amalgamation of the experiences, lessons, dramas and traumas we incur through the process of being in a romantic relationship with a soulmate, in both the current and past lifetimes. The scenarios are being played out by the two of you, over and over, until you get it right. Some of these experiences will be positive and of course some will be negative. Unfortunately we silly humans learn best through the negative life lessons because essentially we are learning that we never want to go through or have that experience again. We move beyond and past it. On the bright side, the assimilation of these are the very ones we need to define our character and make us better relationship partners.

When you have relationship karma with someone, simply put, the karma and life lessons must be played out. If they are not, you will either 1) have that same lesson with someone else or 2) have it with this same soulmate during a later incarnation. It is how the wheel of life works. And you have a choice as to whether or not you want to continue to experience the karma with a specific person in your lifetime. If it becomes more than you want to deal with, you could exercise your right of free will and say “Adios, catch ya next time around”. The choice really is up to you and how much you are willing to sacrifice and endure to be with someone who is not stepping up to the plate. Is it practical to stay with someone who does not make you feel valued or love because you have some karmic debt with them? This is a choice you will have to make.

Karma moves in two directions. If we act virtuously, the seed we plant will result in happiness. If we act non-virtuously, suffering results. ~~ Sakyong Mipham

 

 

Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

A soulmate contract is the ‘document’ you create and agree to with your soulmate, or you many soulmates, before you incarnate for this lifetime. It is the agreement you make with him or her to provide some of the valuable life lessons you will have which will further define your character. Whenever we are working to define our character, it can often take strength, courage and fortitude. Soulmate life lessons can be very difficult. Unfortunately they have to be because as humans we generally learn through painful experiences. Many people in soulmate relationships have often described to us what they perceive as intolerable suffering because their soulmate is mistreating them. They often describe the relationship as a giant emotional roller-coaster ride, or the fear they experience daily, wondering if their soulmate might break up with them. They describe how they have endured weeks, months and sometimes years of unhappiness and bad behavior with the person they love acing out, mistreating them and otherwise making their lives miserable.

breaking your soulmate contract

Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

When we ask them why they continue to stay in such horrible situations, the reply usually is because it is a soulmate relationship, they feel they have no choice, because of the soulmate contract. They insist it is about the connection, and even though they have tried to detach from the relationship, the soulmate keeps reeling them back in. Often they feel it is their purpose to love this person, allowing themselves to be mistreated, disappointed and unfulfilled, just because there is a soulmate contract. Often they give a soulmate much more slack than they would a regular relationship. Now do you think for one minute, the Divine really wants us to be mistreated, hurt and disappointed in our relationships and stay in situations that can become difficult, dangerous and even life threatening? Not so much.

The soulmate is obviously in your life for a reason. You are supposed to grow and evolve from your experiences with them. For example, lets say you have been in a romantic soulmate relationship for three years. Things were great for the first three months, but the remaining 2 years and 9 months have been difficult, painful and unfulfiling. No matter what you do to improve the relationship, it fails because the soulmate is unwilling to discuss, share or listen to ideas and suggestions to make the relationship better. You explain how your needs are not being met, but it falls on deaf ears or they just don’t care. Perhaps you need to evaluate the purpose of the relationship in relation to your soulmate contract.

You may be in a soulmate relationship, but that does not give your soulmate free license to treat you like crap! If they were not your soulmate, and just a normal, mundane relationship, you would probably not stand for that kind of behavior. So why are you allowing your soulmate to treat you that way?  “Because they are my soulmate”, is not a strong enough answer! Perhaps it is time to assess your soulmate contract or soulmate agreement to ascertain just exactly what it is you are supposed to be learning.  More than likely, the lesson is about staying in your power or taking your power back from a dysfunctional relationship. As I have already mentioned in a prior posting, The Most Common Soulmate Lessons, most soulmate relationships are to teach unconditional love, detachment and patience. Well, you can still unconditionally love someone without being in a relationship with them. Just unconditionally love them from afar.

If you are not happy in your romantic soulmate relationship, do you have to stay in it because of the soulmate contract? No. A soulmate contract can be fairly complicated as you each have agreed to provide and support each other through a series of life lessons and personal growth experiences. Perhaps your soulmate contract states you are to end relationships where you feel under-valued and unloved. Maybe you are supposed to walk away from a relationship with someone who regularly practices infidelity. You are more than likely supposed to end a soulmate relationship where you have been treated as a booty-call for several years, although you may truly feel love for that person. You can still love them, just love them from afar.

breaking your soulmate contract

Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

We can probably say with 98% certainty that your soulmate contract does not require you to indefinitely stay in a relationship that leaves you feeling unhappy. Why would the Divine subject you to that indefinitely? They won’t. But you can allow yourself to stay stuck until you realize you have 150% had enough. When the Universe wants us to learn a lesson, especially a lesson involving a soulmate contract, we will learn it. One way or another. We may go kicking and screaming through that lesson but we will learn it. There is nothing to be gained from staying in a soulmate relationship that leaves you unhappy and depressed except more unhappiness and depression. The Universe does not want us to be martyrs, they want us to live, love, laugh and evolve. Exercise your own individual free will, and get the heck out of there.

It is about assessing the situation fairly and deciding if this relationship truly works for you. If it does not, more then likely it is time to end it. This does not mean, however, you are ending your soulmate contract, it simply means you have completed  it and ready to move on. If you are giving your own personal power away day after day to some guy who is not stepping up to the plate, you should be able to see the nature of your soulmate contract. Take your power back! If he makes you feel like crap because he does not call when he says he will, does not spend quality time with you or only sees you for sex, stop it. That nature of your soulmate contract is in front of you.

Here is the real dilemma of the matter. If you continue to stay in that relationship that is making you unhappy and disempowered, then you are directly working against your destiny. If you stay stuck in that space, you will get that same life lesson again, in a different way, more than likely with a different soulmate because you did not get it the first time. So for example, you decide to stay in the unhappy soulmate relationship with someone who is cheating on you, because of your connection. You decide to love him, no matter what, to understand better the principle of unconditional love. What about loving yourself?  More than likely the cheating soulmate will end the relationship with you anyway, and then you are heart broken. After several years of healing, you meet another soulmate relationship and the entire cycle starts again. And if that is what it takes, all is well in the perfection of your soul, you will still have that life lesson.

You can end the contract by taking the step you need to take for your own personal happiness and fulfillment. You do not have to be a suffering martyr to a romantic soulmate relationship if you feel abused, degraded or unhappy. If you find yourself in this situation, end the relationship and end the karmic cycle between the two of you. More than likely you have been dancing this karmic dance for centuries, over and over playing different roles with each other, but the same scenario. Learn the lesson. Get off the roller coaster. Exercise your free will, that is why the Divine gave it to us. It does not mean you have broken your soulmate contract, it means you have completed it and overcome the challenges set forth in your agreement with that person. Congratulations!

 

How Do I Know I Have Met My Soulmate

If you are really wondering and questioning whether or not you have met your romantic soulmate, especially if it is the person you are currently dating, chances are you have not. Out of all my years of experience with soulmates and soulmate readings, one thing stands firm… if you are in or have been in a romantic soulmate relationship, you will probably know it early on in the relationship. Actually you will probably know it at the point of meeting that soulmate because it will be an electrifying moment for both of you.

How Do I Know I Have Met My Soulmate

How Do I Know I Have Met My Soulmate

When soulmates meet on the earthly plane, it very often comes with a mystical, cosmic experience. There is an instant spark, a flare and immediate attraction between you. You each feel the intensity but probably in different ways. You may feel that they are the only person in the room while everyone else around you seems to melt away into a void because the energy in front of you is the only thing that matters at that time. Some people may like to call this ‘love at first time’ but esoterically it is a much deeper experience. It is the soul recognition between you reaching their check-point and saying to each other “Oh there you are, I have been looking for you and glad you finally found your way into my life. Let’s get this show on the road!” It is a feeling of coming home, a feeling as if you know this person already or that you have met before. And you have, just not in this life time.

There is a recognition on the soul level. Although you won’t be fully aware at the time, this often indicates a shared past life, time together on the other side or the soulmate contract or soulmate agreement you made with each other. Your ego will not be aware of these things at the time, however, because all you know in that moment is the intense attraction you feel to this person. More than likely you have shared many lifetimes together and there is a feeling of comfort and contentment in being in the presence of this energy that feels so familiar to you. And you can’t quite put your finger on it, but there is just something about them that resonates with your soul.  Of course, at the initial meeting, you have no idea of the karmic life lessons or changes that are about to manifest in your life as a result of meeting this person who will become a challenging karmic relationship, but you will find out in time.

The beginning of a soulmate relationship can be a whole lotta fun! You have so much in common, not things like grandmothers first names, but commonalities that are much more unique. Whatever it is, it will be something, and if it is not readily apparent, as you get to know each other your similarities will reveal themselves. You have long talks and spend hours on the phone going over all the connected pieces between you, you spend a lot of time together, you think each others thoughts and complete each others sentences and truly believe you have reached a state of perpetual bliss as you turn all your focus upon the one you perceive is “The One”. You have mind-blowing  tantric sex and you just can’t get enough of each other. You talk about the future, make plans for a future and do this really too early on in the relationship, but throwing caution to wind is ok in your mind in this situation because fate has brought you together and you are destined to be united. As a matter of fact you might even neglect a lot of other responsibilities and people in your life because the only thing that matters to you is the soulmate relationship and the ‘connection’.

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How do I know I have met my soulmate?

Now if it is not a romantic soulmate you are wondering about but a soulmate relationship with a friend, family member, co-worker or pet, those connections tend to develop over a longer period. When friends meet and form a strong bond it is usually a kindred spirit kind of connection because you share a lot of similarities in terms of background, belief structure, likes and dislikes and life in general. Over time though, as that friendship deepens and you become closer and more connected, it evolves into a soulmate friendship where you are able to feel each other and communicate telepathically. Friendship soulmate relationships are there you just may not realize it at immediate meeting.

If you wonder if your current romantic relationship is a soulmate connection you may want to consider a soulmate reading from a soulmate psychic who specializes in love, romance, relationships and soulmate issues.  Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are both experienced, ethical, accurate psychics who specialize in love, relationships and soulmates. Known for their integrity and easy manner, you will always receive honest answers to your soulmate questions as well as practical steps on how to improve the relationship or let go of it if it is time to move on. Soulmate relationships can be rewarding but they can also be very challenging and complicated. Sarah and Sophia will bring clarity for both you and your soulmate relationship during your soulmate reading and give you the answers you need for the ultimate evolution of your soul.

 

 

 

 

Do Soulmate Relationships End?

Do Soulmate Relationships End?

Do soulmate relationships end? Soulmate relationships do not really end but they can and will change and transform into a different type of relationship within both the current lifetime and lifetimes to come. When we are talking about soulmates, in the true sense of the word, the relationship is endless. A soulmate relationship is eternal, and soulmates will incarnate with each other over and over again in an effort to attain the life lessons they have with one another. But.. do they really.. do soulmate relationships end?

The true nature of a soulmate relationship is a karmic one and during a soulmate reading we can very quickly tune into the soulmate contract and karmic nature of your relationship. When we have karmic relationships, whether they be kindred spirit relationships, soulmate relationships or twin flame relationships, we are called to learn and grow from that relationship in an effort to produce a soul evolution. We revisit these same relationships lifetime after lifetime to ensure the growth is there. This is why, when you meet a soulmate, but more specifically a romantic soulmate, you have that feeling of instant attraction, love at first sight or the sense you have known this person before. Actually you have known them before just not in this lifetime. It is a past life recognition or soul level recognition that creates that feeling or connection when you meet a soulmate.

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Do Soulmate Relationships End?

Since you incarnate with these same souls who are really members from your soul family over and over again the soulmate relationship is truly endless. You may be in a romantic relationship with them in this lifetime but that does not indicate you will always manifest as romantic soulmates, life after life. You may be brother – sister soulmates in one lifetime, mother – son soulmates the next lifetime or teacher – student soulmates in another lifetime. Regardless of the nature of the relationship the soulmate relationship exists by its mere definition… soulmates.

Many people call us who are currently involved in soulmate relationships or who have recently ended soulmate relationships. They are seeking clarity for issues that present themselves during the course of the soulmate relationship. These problems, issues and crises you have with your soulmate, however, are by definition the very reason you are having the soulmate relationship. Sometimes it can cause a break in the soulmate relationship so each of you can go and learn what needs to be learned as stated in your soulmate agreement or soulmate contract. Being in a break period from your soulmate can be very difficult. You can feel a great deal of pain which you will more than likely define as suffering. Being separated from your soulmate can create a great deal of anxiety which we call Soulmate Separation Anxiety.

It is your job and challenge, if you are truly living from the perspective of your eternal soul, to work through that Soulmate Separation Anxiety and stay in your power. It could just be a period of time needs to pass so that you can each learn your respective life lessons individually before the soulmate relationship can continue. Separations from your soulmate, once you have found them, are the greatest opportunities for spiritual growth. Unfortunately we do not learn spiritual lessons when things are going great in our lives, well most of us don’t because we are not highly evolved enough. Sadly we learn through pain, like learning how to not touch the stove because it will burn. Pain brings growth, emotionally and spiritually. If you are in a break from your soulmate, learn the lesson you need to learn and you have a greater potential for the soulmate relationship to come back together.

And be patient! Sometimes it can take a long time for the soulmates to come back together, but it is all part of the process. I have seen many soulmate breakups reconnect 10, 15, 20 years later to produce wonderful long lasting relationships. The truth of the matter is that you have no control over it so you might as well be patient anyway. And more than likely, patience (which is one of the most difficult life lessons to learn) is the lesson you are currently experiencing.

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Do Soulmate Relationships End?

More of than not, soulmate breakups are permanent. So to answer my own question from a different perspective, there is not guarantee from God, the Angels, Goddess or soulmate fairies that a soulmate relationship is permanent. For the fortunate few however they can be. I have seen some soulmate relationships that continue for the remainder of their lives. I have some friends who were high school sweethearts, who married very young, and today, 30-years later they are still together. Their soulmate contract with each other indicated that their life lessons encompassed being in a relationship for their entire adult lives. For most of us though, that is simply not to be.

When your soulmate relationship comes to an end it can be a very disruptive experience psychologically, emotionally and even spiritually. It is truly a”Dark Night of the Soul” experience and it will take you some time to get through and work through all the feelings and emotions you have concerning the ending of the relationship. But remember we have to have these dark nights so we can fully embrace and experience the true light!

When you have learned what you contracted to learn with your soulmate and that soulmate agreement or soulmate contract is complete, there is no spiritual need for the relationship to continue. Now I understand you may want it to continue because you do truly feel a deep connection to that person but from the perspective of the evolution of your soul, it is time to move on and grow and evolve in another direction. Personally I have had several soulmate relationships in my lifetime and each one of them brought with it vast experience and insight that has put me in the place that I am today….and I don’t just mean sitting here writing articles about soulmates.  🙂  Without those soulmate relationships, and the ending of those soulmate relationship, I would be stuck in a life I did not want and did not like.

When soulmate relationships end, people can become very depressed and detached from life. They can stop doing all the things they are supposed to do such as paying bills, going to work, being around family, bathing and cleaning the house.  The challenge is to stay in your power and continue to be a productive living, breathing, bathing human. Try to stop this from sending you into a downward spiral of obsession and fantasy. Try to see what you learned from it, embrace it, heal from it and move on. This is a time where a soulmate reading with soulmate psychics Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise can help. During a soulmate reading specifically focused on you, they will be able to see whether your soulmate relationship is on hiatus or truly finished. They will always be honest with you concerning your soulmate dilemmas and help you find the strength and grace to get through the break or break-up.

For More on this topic see Soulmate Breakups, Will You Always Get Back Together

 

 

 

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