What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Destiny

Predestined Relationships and Soulmates

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Predestined Relationships and Soulmates

Many people believe in predestined relationships. But what exactly is a predestined relationship? Well we don’t believe predestined relationships exist. However, we do believe that destiny brings two people together through chance encounters, the crossing of paths or the aligning of the stars. While these may feel like chance encounters, serendipity or synchronicity, it is more so the karmic agreement you have with another soul. Before you were born, you and that soulmate decided that you would meet at a certain place and time because you had some things to work through together. So when we think of predestined relationship, it makes more sense to refer to agreements made with a soulmate for completion of a karmic task. That is the predestined part. There is never any guarantee it will turn into a relationship.

Some people believe soulmate relationships are predestined relationships that come with a guarantee for romantic success. And while this can be true in some cases, they don’t have the ability to see the full destiny of a relationship or its final outcome. Destiny most certainly plays a role when meeting someone who you might have never met under normal circumstances, for example. But destiny does not participate in how this relationship ultimately unfolds. Destiny has played its role by putting you both in the same place at the same time, but this does not indicate it is a predestined relationship. The chance encounter was predestined, but for the destiny to unfold, you much each make choices in your lives to support it. The Universe produces the connections, the free will we are all given determines where the relationship ultimately goes.

People who believe in predestined relationships might also believe the relationship will be full of roses and moonlight walks on the beach. Since destiny brought them together, that most certainly fate will kick in to make their predestined relationship the perfect romantic adventure. Destiny can only do so much; it won’t do all the work for you nor will it guarantee the quality of a relationship. So again while the opportunity to meet a romantic partner may be predestined by fates greater than yourselves, you much each individually do the work within the relationship. The two people involved in the relationship and their willingness to work together to build a happy healthy life produces a long-lasting partnership. If you believe in a set outcome for a predestined relationship, then what is the point of the actual dating process? Interesting food for thought.

If we consider that predestined relationships are defined before we are born, we must also agree that they will come with life lessons. As we have discussed in other blogs, many life lessons come through painful experiences, what has this predestined relationship come to teach you? Some of them can actually create wonderful relationships but unfortunately they can’t all be positive experiences. Destiny does not always bring us joyful events. Quite often destiny’s intervention is to learn a hard lesson. What happens when the going gets tough? The outcome of predestined relationships really relies on the partners and their willingness to work for a healthy happy relationship. Too often people drop the ball expecting fate and destiny to sustain their relationship when the need to do the work themselves to fulfill a life lesson.

If you believe that a relationship can be destined to work out, you also then must accept that some relationships may be destined to fail. You can’t have one without the other. Some predestined relationships, if the lesson is learned and is allowed to fail, leads the person to the right relationship for them. There have been countless people who have shared these experiences with us. For example, someone we will call “Mary” had what she believed was a predestined relationship turn into a complete disaster. No matter how hard she tried to make it work she hit obstacles and barriers that could not overcome. Their meeting was predestined and she believed that alone indicated the relationship would last. In truth, the relationship made her so miserable. She refused to throw in the towel, because she believed so strongly in the predestined relationship that just had to work out in the end. She was wrong. This relationship was predestined, but not for the reason Mary thought. Once she learned the lesson this predestined relationship provided, and let that relationship go, a better relationship entered her life. Looking back, she could see how the experience of the predestined relationship led her to the happy fulfilling relationship she is enjoying today. So in truth, this predestined relationship, although it failed, ultimately led her to a successful romantic partnership.

Destiny is not cupid. Destiny does not surround your relationship in a protective bubble to keep your relationship together forever. Predestined relationships allow us to take the opportunities we are given and make the best of them, regardless of the final outcome. The beginning of a relationship can be predestined, but you must all take responsibility for how the relationship unfolds.

What is your predestined relationship destined to be? What are you supposed to be learning, changing or doing in your current relationship to ensue the most positive outcome for you? Sarah and Sophia can provide clarity and insight into the specific purposes of predestined relationships in your lives.

Soulmate Relationships: Fated and Non-Fated

Soulmate relationships come with a certain amount of destiny and fate attached to them, but not all relationships are fated. When we speak of destiny and soulmates, it is indicated they come from that spiritual place of pre-destined meetings that you agreed to before birth. A fated relationship, such as a soulmate relationship, will shape your life by bringing experiences that you would not have had, if this person had not entered your life. In other words, if you did not have this fated meeting, your life path may very well have taken a different route.  When it is a fated relationship, the energy of it will be bigger than both of you, and it will unfold as the Universe wants it to.

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Soulmate Relationships: Fated and Non-Fated

When things are fated in your life, many people and beings conspire and are used to create that reality, and it is truly a cosmic experience. Soulmate relationships, and others you are meant to encounter in this lifetime, will enter your life no matter what you do. It is a concert being conducted by the Universe. When you have this experience you will see the flow of what seem like random events converge together to create the mystical experience that defines a fated relationship. When you are engaged with someone who is a fated relationship, whether that be a friendship or soulmate relationship, they will always make a big impact on your life and be part of your life for a long time.

We can also have relationships that are defined by non-fated meetings. These people come into our lives to teach us a lesson, for one particular reason or another, and then move on. As we have discussed in many other blogs, a soulmate relationship does not necessarily last a lifetime, as it could also only last for a season or a reason. And that reason is to teach you a life lesson about yourself that must be learned for your own personal growth, and then they move on. Even though we may have formed a strong emotional bond to that individual during the time the life lesson was in play, we must also realize that once that lesson has been assimilated into our psyche, it is time for us to let them go, thank them for the lesson and move on as best we can. And yes, we realize that moving on may be easier said than done, but that will also be part of the lesson.

So how exactly can you determine if a meeting is fated or non-fated? In a fated meeting, as mentioned above, the Universe is definitely moving things around to “force” a meeting and it will only happen through divine design. Here is an example: Lets say you have a trip planned but when you get to the airport, your flight is cancelled. Even though you had been looking forward to the trip for many months you wonder now if you will ever get there. Finally, two days later, you are on an outbound plane to your destination. Instead of having 12 days in your locale, you now only have 10, and so you must adjust your sight-seeing activities accordingly. It is very frustrating to you to redo your entire schedule because you still want to see everything. One day you end up being somewhere you were not supposed to be on that day. Actually you were supposed to be somewhere very far away from that spot, but because you adjusted your itinerary, you were there. And BOOM! you meet someone and it has a very mythical, mystical feel to it. You were not supposed to be there. That was not your plan. But the Universe, and greater powers that be, orchestrated that entire sequence of events so you would be there, at the right time and the right place. Pretty amazing isn’t it?

Remember, non-fated relationships are just as important to our personal growth as fated ones. Also consider that the Universe brings into our lives the people and events we need at that moment to inspire us and cause us to change. If you have been in a non-fated relationship, be grateful for the experience and the lesson that came with it because in some way that person touched your life.

You don’t have to go out there and look for these types of connections. When they are supposed to come into your life they will and there is not one thing you can do to encourage it along. Go out. Live your life. When things start to appear chaotic, like the cancellation of plans, etc., take a step back and wonder what is happening and allow the Divine to work in your life.

Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

A soulmate contract is the ‘document’ you create and agree to with your soulmate, or you many soulmates, before you incarnate for this lifetime. It is the agreement you make with him or her to provide some of the valuable life lessons you will have which will further define your character. Whenever we are working to define our character, it can often take strength, courage and fortitude. Soulmate life lessons can be very difficult. Unfortunately they have to be because as humans we generally learn through painful experiences. Many people in soulmate relationships have often described to us what they perceive as intolerable suffering because their soulmate is mistreating them. They often describe the relationship as a giant emotional roller-coaster ride, or the fear they experience daily, wondering if their soulmate might break up with them. They describe how they have endured weeks, months and sometimes years of unhappiness and bad behavior with the person they love acing out, mistreating them and otherwise making their lives miserable.

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Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

When we ask them why they continue to stay in such horrible situations, the reply usually is because it is a soulmate relationship, they feel they have no choice, because of the soulmate contract. They insist it is about the connection, and even though they have tried to detach from the relationship, the soulmate keeps reeling them back in. Often they feel it is their purpose to love this person, allowing themselves to be mistreated, disappointed and unfulfilled, just because there is a soulmate contract. Often they give a soulmate much more slack than they would a regular relationship. Now do you think for one minute, the Divine really wants us to be mistreated, hurt and disappointed in our relationships and stay in situations that can become difficult, dangerous and even life threatening? Not so much.

The soulmate is obviously in your life for a reason. You are supposed to grow and evolve from your experiences with them. For example, lets say you have been in a romantic soulmate relationship for three years. Things were great for the first three months, but the remaining 2 years and 9 months have been difficult, painful and unfulfiling. No matter what you do to improve the relationship, it fails because the soulmate is unwilling to discuss, share or listen to ideas and suggestions to make the relationship better. You explain how your needs are not being met, but it falls on deaf ears or they just don’t care. Perhaps you need to evaluate the purpose of the relationship in relation to your soulmate contract.

You may be in a soulmate relationship, but that does not give your soulmate free license to treat you like crap! If they were not your soulmate, and just a normal, mundane relationship, you would probably not stand for that kind of behavior. So why are you allowing your soulmate to treat you that way?  “Because they are my soulmate”, is not a strong enough answer! Perhaps it is time to assess your soulmate contract or soulmate agreement to ascertain just exactly what it is you are supposed to be learning.  More than likely, the lesson is about staying in your power or taking your power back from a dysfunctional relationship. As I have already mentioned in a prior posting, The Most Common Soulmate Lessons, most soulmate relationships are to teach unconditional love, detachment and patience. Well, you can still unconditionally love someone without being in a relationship with them. Just unconditionally love them from afar.

If you are not happy in your romantic soulmate relationship, do you have to stay in it because of the soulmate contract? No. A soulmate contract can be fairly complicated as you each have agreed to provide and support each other through a series of life lessons and personal growth experiences. Perhaps your soulmate contract states you are to end relationships where you feel under-valued and unloved. Maybe you are supposed to walk away from a relationship with someone who regularly practices infidelity. You are more than likely supposed to end a soulmate relationship where you have been treated as a booty-call for several years, although you may truly feel love for that person. You can still love them, just love them from afar.

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Breaking Your Soulmate Contract

We can probably say with 98% certainty that your soulmate contract does not require you to indefinitely stay in a relationship that leaves you feeling unhappy. Why would the Divine subject you to that indefinitely? They won’t. But you can allow yourself to stay stuck until you realize you have 150% had enough. When the Universe wants us to learn a lesson, especially a lesson involving a soulmate contract, we will learn it. One way or another. We may go kicking and screaming through that lesson but we will learn it. There is nothing to be gained from staying in a soulmate relationship that leaves you unhappy and depressed except more unhappiness and depression. The Universe does not want us to be martyrs, they want us to live, love, laugh and evolve. Exercise your own individual free will, and get the heck out of there.

It is about assessing the situation fairly and deciding if this relationship truly works for you. If it does not, more then likely it is time to end it. This does not mean, however, you are ending your soulmate contract, it simply means you have completed  it and ready to move on. If you are giving your own personal power away day after day to some guy who is not stepping up to the plate, you should be able to see the nature of your soulmate contract. Take your power back! If he makes you feel like crap because he does not call when he says he will, does not spend quality time with you or only sees you for sex, stop it. That nature of your soulmate contract is in front of you.

Here is the real dilemma of the matter. If you continue to stay in that relationship that is making you unhappy and disempowered, then you are directly working against your destiny. If you stay stuck in that space, you will get that same life lesson again, in a different way, more than likely with a different soulmate because you did not get it the first time. So for example, you decide to stay in the unhappy soulmate relationship with someone who is cheating on you, because of your connection. You decide to love him, no matter what, to understand better the principle of unconditional love. What about loving yourself?  More than likely the cheating soulmate will end the relationship with you anyway, and then you are heart broken. After several years of healing, you meet another soulmate relationship and the entire cycle starts again. And if that is what it takes, all is well in the perfection of your soul, you will still have that life lesson.

You can end the contract by taking the step you need to take for your own personal happiness and fulfillment. You do not have to be a suffering martyr to a romantic soulmate relationship if you feel abused, degraded or unhappy. If you find yourself in this situation, end the relationship and end the karmic cycle between the two of you. More than likely you have been dancing this karmic dance for centuries, over and over playing different roles with each other, but the same scenario. Learn the lesson. Get off the roller coaster. Exercise your free will, that is why the Divine gave it to us. It does not mean you have broken your soulmate contract, it means you have completed it and overcome the challenges set forth in your agreement with that person. Congratulations!

 

Twin Flame Relationship Presley and Ethel Bradshaw

Twin Flame Relationship Presley and Ethel Bradshaw

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Twin Flame Relationship

Presley and Ethel Bradshaw had a real twin flame relationship. This couple from Louisville, Kentucky were married October 21, 1938. They were married  for 73 years! All we can say to that is WOW! That is longer than my mom has been alive! Although Ethel entered a nursing home four years ago when her health started to fade, her husband continued to visit her until moving into the home to be with her two years later. They lived together for longer than a lifetime, and then on Monday, January 23, 2012, they died within four hours of each other. They are truly the perfectly divine example of kindred spirits and both a true soulmate and twin flame relationship.

Even though Ethel suffered dementia she certainly must have felt the disconnect of her husband and twin flame relationship partner, Presley. This loving husband would hold her hand and kiss her lovingly until the end. She may not have been consciously aware that he had departed the earthly plane, but her soul certainly must have. She could not, and would not, stay earthbound without him by her side. In twin flame relationship pattern, she too, just four hours later, quietly left this world to be reunited with him on the other side.

We can not know, nor pretend to know the life lessons these two great souls learned by being together. What we can  know, however, is that their being together was the karmic seed and foundation of their twin flame relationship. Their life lessons and spiritual growth was destined to occur while they were in the relationship together. Certainly they had issues, arguments and concerns just like any relationship would have, but they were destined to work through the issues and receive their personal growth together.

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Twin Flame Relationship - Meeting in Heaven

As we have previously discussed in other postings, soulmates and their twin flame greater counterparts, usually do most of their spiritual growth, personal growth and character expansion during the breakup phases of the twin flame relationship. It seems that we, as humans have the greatest potential for growth and expansion when we are in pain. Painful experiences teach spiritual growth because when we are usually in that dark night of the soul, we reach out to the Divine to aid our suffering. Breakups and ending of a soulmate relationship, or twin flame relationship, are very painful experiences. It is during that time we are required to pull ourselves together and carry on with life without the soulmate by our side. In and of itself, this is a very challenging situation.

Presley and Ethel, however,experienced the details of their soulmate contract, or soulmate agreement, while they were together. That was the nature and destiny of their twin flame relationship. Few soulmate and twin flame relationships are destined to be together for the long haul. Soulmates come into our lives, we learn and assimilate the experience, and then sadly must end that soulmate relationship. At the time we are unable to see past the heartbreak and devastation we feel because all we can focus on is the loss of the soulmate and the disconnectedness we feel. This was so for Presley and Ethel. They lived, loved and experienced their lives together and were so connected that at the end, they had to depart together so their twin flame relationship could continue on the other side.  Ethel just had no reason to be here any longer without Presley and so she went to be with him to continue to hold his hand in Heaven.

How Do I Know I Have Met My Soulmate

If you are really wondering and questioning whether or not you have met your romantic soulmate, especially if it is the person you are currently dating, chances are you have not. Out of all my years of experience with soulmates and soulmate readings, one thing stands firm… if you are in or have been in a romantic soulmate relationship, you will probably know it early on in the relationship. Actually you will probably know it at the point of meeting that soulmate because it will be an electrifying moment for both of you.

How Do I Know I Have Met My Soulmate

How Do I Know I Have Met My Soulmate

When soulmates meet on the earthly plane, it very often comes with a mystical, cosmic experience. There is an instant spark, a flare and immediate attraction between you. You each feel the intensity but probably in different ways. You may feel that they are the only person in the room while everyone else around you seems to melt away into a void because the energy in front of you is the only thing that matters at that time. Some people may like to call this ‘love at first time’ but esoterically it is a much deeper experience. It is the soul recognition between you reaching their check-point and saying to each other “Oh there you are, I have been looking for you and glad you finally found your way into my life. Let’s get this show on the road!” It is a feeling of coming home, a feeling as if you know this person already or that you have met before. And you have, just not in this life time.

There is a recognition on the soul level. Although you won’t be fully aware at the time, this often indicates a shared past life, time together on the other side or the soulmate contract or soulmate agreement you made with each other. Your ego will not be aware of these things at the time, however, because all you know in that moment is the intense attraction you feel to this person. More than likely you have shared many lifetimes together and there is a feeling of comfort and contentment in being in the presence of this energy that feels so familiar to you. And you can’t quite put your finger on it, but there is just something about them that resonates with your soul.  Of course, at the initial meeting, you have no idea of the karmic life lessons or changes that are about to manifest in your life as a result of meeting this person who will become a challenging karmic relationship, but you will find out in time.

The beginning of a soulmate relationship can be a whole lotta fun! You have so much in common, not things like grandmothers first names, but commonalities that are much more unique. Whatever it is, it will be something, and if it is not readily apparent, as you get to know each other your similarities will reveal themselves. You have long talks and spend hours on the phone going over all the connected pieces between you, you spend a lot of time together, you think each others thoughts and complete each others sentences and truly believe you have reached a state of perpetual bliss as you turn all your focus upon the one you perceive is “The One”. You have mind-blowing  tantric sex and you just can’t get enough of each other. You talk about the future, make plans for a future and do this really too early on in the relationship, but throwing caution to wind is ok in your mind in this situation because fate has brought you together and you are destined to be united. As a matter of fact you might even neglect a lot of other responsibilities and people in your life because the only thing that matters to you is the soulmate relationship and the ‘connection’.

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How do I know I have met my soulmate?

Now if it is not a romantic soulmate you are wondering about but a soulmate relationship with a friend, family member, co-worker or pet, those connections tend to develop over a longer period. When friends meet and form a strong bond it is usually a kindred spirit kind of connection because you share a lot of similarities in terms of background, belief structure, likes and dislikes and life in general. Over time though, as that friendship deepens and you become closer and more connected, it evolves into a soulmate friendship where you are able to feel each other and communicate telepathically. Friendship soulmate relationships are there you just may not realize it at immediate meeting.

If you wonder if your current romantic relationship is a soulmate connection you may want to consider a soulmate reading from a soulmate psychic who specializes in love, romance, relationships and soulmate issues.  Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are both experienced, ethical, accurate psychics who specialize in love, relationships and soulmates. Known for their integrity and easy manner, you will always receive honest answers to your soulmate questions as well as practical steps on how to improve the relationship or let go of it if it is time to move on. Soulmate relationships can be rewarding but they can also be very challenging and complicated. Sarah and Sophia will bring clarity for both you and your soulmate relationship during your soulmate reading and give you the answers you need for the ultimate evolution of your soul.

 

 

 

 

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