What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

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Soulmate Tests: Are You Passing or Failing?

Is your soulmate failing all the soulmate tests the universe is presenting to you both individually and as a couple? Has your soulmate turned their back on you or denied your soulmate connection? Have they tested your strength and sanity with irrational or cruel behavior? Has your soulmate disappeared, refusing to see or speak to you? Has your soulmate run from your arms to someone else’s?

 

If your soulmate has done any of the above, they are seriously failing their soulmate tests. The universe does not bring soulmates into our lives for just romance and happy times. The true path of the soulmate connection is to change our perspective on the direction our life path is headed. Our soulmates are there to help us see the changes that we need to make in order to be more fulfilled and to live our best and most authentic lives.

 

Soulmate relationships always come with a series of soulmate tests. If we keep failing test after test, the lessons will just get harder and harder. If we keep failing our soulmate tests, the Universe can often resort to smashing our heads with a 2X4 or drop the equivalent of a 14 pound bowling ball on our heads, until we get the lesson. So before your soulmate relationship hits the breaking point, learn to pass the tests, instead of failing.
 

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Soulmate Tests: Passing or Failing?

Keep in mind that each of you may have tests both individually, and as a couple. Whatever test the universe is giving your soulmate, it is up to them to pass or fail. You can help them, but you can’t take the test for them. That’s cheating. You may be doing things with the best of intentions, but are setting your soulmate up to keep failing the test. Interfering in your soulmate’s lessons will only cause them to be tested again, until they can stand on their own two feet.

 

For example, if the Universe may want your soulmate to stop sabotaging the good things that come into their life. They may have a pattern of behavior in relationships, or other areas of their life, where acting out or being unreasonable sabotages their relationship with you. The Universe put you in this relationship to be a catalyst for change, not to enable them.

 

Perhaps the Universe, at the same time, wants you to learn to stand up for yourself. If you enable your soulmate by accepting and feeding into their bad behavior, you set them up to keep failing. You will keep failing your test as well, because you are not standing your ground. So what might seem to be the right thing, or easier thing, to do actually the wrong thing to do. You may say “Well, I am not a confrontational person”. And that may be exactly what the universe wants you to change.

 

Of course, they don’t want to you to become banshee confrontational, but they want you to confront things head on when needed. This may be a hard test for you to pass, but it was not meant to be easy. Otherwise you would not be getting this lesson at this point in your life. You contracted with your soulmate to have this life lesson with them for your own personal growth and development. Their soulmate contract with you was to stop sabotaging their relationships.

 

The Universe wants you to work on this because it benefit you at some point in the future. If you are tired of retaking the same tests over and over again, learn your lesson. It should be obvious that what you are presently doing to keep the peace isn’t working. So isn’t it time to really learn what the Universe is really telling you? If you want your life, and your soul mate relationship, to get better YOU need to do better. If something isn’t working, stop doing the same thing over and over again to try to fix it. Try something new. As they say, you can’t change anything until you change yourself. In changing yourself, you may have a much better chance of passing, not failing the test. Passing your soulmate tests can actually create a dynamic to help your soulmate pass their tests as well.

 

Breaking the Rules in Soulmate Relationships

Is your soulmate breaking the rules? Has your soulmate taken your sacred, spiritual connection and used it to drive you insane?

 

When a soulmate is breaking the rules, expect all hell to break loose. Because of the strong, deep connection between souls, there seems to be a tendency to not only break the rules, but to get away with breaking the rules. When one soulmate breaks the rules, it’s on them, and they need to take responsibility. However, if the other soulmate doesn’t stay strong by enforcing boundaries, instead letting them get away with murder, it is on both of them. You are both responsible for breaking the rules.

 

Breaking the Rules in Soulmate Relationships

              Breaking the Rules in Soulmate Relationships

You may think you should let your soulmate break the rules, even if you wouldn’t let anyone else break those same rules. You figure since it is your soulmate, you should give them special treatment.

 

That is partially correct. You should give your soulmate special treatment by not allowing them to do things that disrespect this special bond you both share.

 

It’s kind of sacrilegious to see how some couples in spiritual soulmate relationships act as if they are possessed by demons. A lot of these same people think that they can act like that and the universe will keep them together. Wrong. The universe is not going to support behavior like that, nor will they assist in helping a soulmate couple continue to be disrespectful to the gift the universe has given them.

 

Your soulmate could be breaking the rules such as cheating on you or denying your connection entirely. Don’t let their rule breaking cause you to lower your standards. We understand you want to fight for your relationship, and you should. You just have to make sure you are fighting the right fight.

 

Stooping to lower level behavior is not fighting the right fight. Keep yourself elevated, and let your soulmate learn from the consequences you dish out every time they break the rules. And please don’t think having in depth conversations about their behavior and how it hurt you is going to be enough. Stop being a scaredy cat and get with the program. Your soulmate is supposed to learn lessons that make them a better person. So are you.

 

You are NOT supposed to be teaching them that behavior such as theirs is okay. You have to learn to stand up for what is right, not accept what is wrong because you are afraid. Don’t break the rules along with your soulmate. There are some rules that are pretty common for all couples, but each couple has a few unique ones of their own. Honor each other by not breaking those rules, and expecting or dishing out punishment depending on if you are on the giving or receiving end.

 

Soulmates Are Rare Which is Why They Are Special

Soulmates are rare and that is what makes them so special. To feel so intensely connection to another human being on so many levels, is truly an extraordinary experience. Of course we can have strong feelings of love for numerous people over a lifetime, yet the love we have towards are soulmate is exceptional.

 

It is very rare to meet someone for the first time and feel as though you have known them forever, yet this is common with soulmates. So many clients have told us they found themselves tolerating behavior from their soulmate that they would never have put up with from another human being. Sometimes a soulmate will behave or think in ways that are foreign to their own personality. A strong, independent woman, for example, may find herself feeling less strong and wanting less independence now that her soulmate has entered the picture. Because of the rare bond, it is a common for both parties to change. How they change, whether it be for the better or the worse, is entirely up to them.

Soulmates Are Rare Which is Why They Are Special

                           Soulmates Are Rare 

Many people cling too hard to their soulmate relationship when a break would actually be beneficial. The heightened levels of emotion can cause extreme levels of drama and situations can get way out of hand. Also, if certain bad behaviors have been accepted or tolerated for too long of a time they only get worse.

 

Instead of clinging to something that has gone off course, it may be time to withdraw for a while. Because of the rare connection soulmates share, time apart between them is not really a bad thing. In normal relationships the term “out of sight out of mind” may apply, but not with soulmate relationships. The bond always remains, regardless of how far apart they may be. The universe created this rare pairing, and no mere mortal can destroy the connection.

 

If the relationship becomes too toxic, the bond can be diminished, but in truth, it still remains. It just makes it much easier to deal with. You will always have a special place reserved for your soulmate, regardless of how much time has passed since you have seen each other.

 

Because soul mates are so rare, waiting for a soulmate to materialize can make someone impatient. The universe is in charge of timing, and they decide when the time is right. You may want your soulmate to appear so you can have the romantic relationship you always wanted. Well, the universe’s prime purpose is not that of romantic matchmakers. They use the pairing of romantic partners to create change, and without that change, you don’t get the romantic relationship you wanted.

 

If your soulmate relationship is not going smoothly, it is time to get real with yourself. Look at both yourself and your partner and see what changes you are both resisting. You many try to blame it all on your soulmate, but it is your fault too. You have been using the rare connection and feelings you have towards this person as an excuse to not change your own way of doing, thinking or feeling. Until you get yourself right, the relationship won’t be right. So don’t expect to have the reward without doing some work. Soulmates come at a cost. So if you have been hoping, wishing and praying to be blessed with a soulmate, be prepared to pay the price that comes with it.

Why Does Your Soulmate Hurt You?

Why does your soulmate hurt you? Isn’t a soulmate relationship supposed to be a relationship with a higher standard? Why would a soulmate hurt your feelings, especially for no good reason?

 

First of all, soulmates have very deep feelings for one another by way of their deep soul connection. Unfortunately, this does not mean they won’t hurt you. Usually they will hurt you much more than a regular, or mundane, relationship.

Why Does Your Soulmate Hurt You?

Why Does Your Soulmate Hurt You?

Soulmate relationships are very tricky and often hard to navigate. When feelings run high, tensions often run high as well. Due to the hurdles soulmates often have to jump over, hurt feelings are often a part of the package. If the lessons to be learned are avoided on either side, you can pretty much guarantee there will be a lot of hurt feelings as well.

 

Just because this person is your soulmate, does not mean you give them carte blanche to repeatedly hurt you feelings. You are supposed to raise your standard with a soulmate, not lower it. If you do lower your standards by allowing them to do hurt you in ways you would not let anyone else on earth, you are not learning your lessons either.

 

The universe would not support a relationship where one soulmate constantly hurts another and the other one tolerates it. This is not what that union was created for, so don’t expect a miracle from them. Your soulmate has to stop hurting you and you have to stop waiting for them to hurt you and do something about it.

 

You may not like what you have to do, but too bad. You want this relationship to work out? Then do the work, or enable it to be ruined. It’s up to you. You know what you need to do, in most cases, you are just afraid to do it. Fear and your insecurities are not exactly the best advisors are they? Do what you know is right, and stop doing what is safe.

 

Stop using the soulmate excuse. Stop blaming your connection for the reason you are allowing your soulmate to hurt you over and over again. Yes, the connection is there. The universe created it, but don’t blame them. They are not forcing you to remain in a connection that hurts you. Own up to your responsibility of the misuse of the connection you share.

 

In so many, many cases a soulmate will hurt you because they are trying to work out the connection they have with you and what they must face because of you. While they work though that, you may get hurt in the process. If your soulmate is in denial about having this bond with you, how they react to that is most assuredly going to hurt your feelings. That isn’t about you per say, but it is about them accepting what is happening.

 

It does not excuse them, just try not to take it too personally, which we realize is easier said than done. If it is hurting you too much, distance yourself from them until they work through it on their own. You are not responsible for being their teacher all the time. They learned to talk, write, drive and do math. They can learn their own lessons if you need to remove yourself from the situation for a while.

 

When a soulmate is working through their own issues and feelings they may not understand or be aware of how their words, decisions or behaviors hurt you. If you don’t make your hurt feelings aware enough to them, and not just with words but actions, then they won’t think it is really a big deal. Never be so compassionate to someone else, even a soulmate, that you constantly sacrifice your own feelings, and allow yourself to be hurt over and over again.

Soulmate Relationships Test Your Sanity

Soulmate relationships can really make someone believe they are losing their sanity. Countless people we speak to believe they have completely lost their minds or are in the process of losing them. They share with us all the details about the way they feel and think about their soulmate, and literally believe they are losing their sanity.

They tell us how they can’t stop thinking about their soulmate and fear they are bordering on soulmate obsession. The feelings they have for their soulmate defy all logic. Upon initial meeting, the feelings for a soulmate are immediate and so strong they seem impossible to believe. They find themselves acting in strange and unusual ways, tolerating behaviors they would deem unacceptable in mundane romantic relationships. They should have run out of chances a long time ago, but for some crazy reason, they are given chance after chance.

So what is it about soulmate relationships that can make people do, feel and think the craziest things?

A soulmate connection makes people feel things they never felt before. Those feelings can often make them behave in ways they never thought possible. It is easy to think your sanity is questionable when you barely recognize yourself anymore. You may have been one to set and enforce boundaries. Now you are afraid to create and enforce boundaries with your soulmate. What you were strong enough to do in other relationships you are afraid to do in a soulmate relationship.

Soulmate Relationships Test Your Sanity

Soulmate Relationships Test Your Sanity

You are intelligent enough to know what you should do. You are smart enough to recognize bad behavior. The problem is you are not using your intelligence as much anymore. Your emotions have taken over all aspects of your logical mind.

Many people think the emotion of love causes them to do crazy insane things with their soulmate. Wrong. It may seem like love, but it is really coming from fear. You may believe you are letting your soulmate get away with so much because of the strength of the soulmate connection or the unconditional love you have for them. That is shifting the blame outside yourself. It isn’t love or the connection, it is your fear preventing you from doing what you know is right.

You are afraid to put your foot down because you are afraid they will leave. That is what it all boils down to. The soulmate connection didn’t make you call your soulmate after a fight that was all their fault. You were afraid they wouldn’t call you. When you let fear dictate your behavior and thoughts you are not thinking clearly. Now your thoughts and behaviors become as wacky as your soulmate’s.

And wonder why your soulmate relationship is a dysfunctional mess? What else could it be? When it gets to a point where the relationship is testing your sanity it is time to get your emotions in check. Start thinking about what you know instead of what you are afraid of. If you know things have to change then begin changing yourself. Look at how you played a part in what has been created. Begin to do what you know is right and healthy for a relationship, and stop making excuses based on fear. When you do that, you begin to bring sanity back into your soulmate relationship.

SOPHIA ELISE

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