What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

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The Memory of a Soulmate and How It Affects You

The memory of a soulmate affects different people in different ways. For some, the memory of a soulmate makes them wonder what went wrong in the relationship. They can obsess on what they did wrong, what they could have done differently, or if the whole thing was a figment of their imagination. For people like that, the memory of a soulmate keeps them from moving forward.

 

Even people in a soulmate relationships that are in a very dysfunctional state allow the memory of good times to cloud their judgement. They remember the time when things were good, and believe that is how things should be, and will be, if they just hang in there. They hope being loving toward their soulmate will in turn cause them to return that love. In many cases, just hanging in there and being loving just makes things worse for the couple.

The Memory of a Soulmate

                                The Memory of a Soulmate

 

Sometimes the memory of how things were for soulmates, during good times, holds people back from doing what really needs to be done to make the relationship better. Forget about the past for now. Don’t even focus so much on the future. You need to put your attention on the present because it is what will shape your relationship going forward. Look at the problems you are currently facing, and look for new ways to create change. Stop using the behaviors you used in the past. Those clearly didn’t work.

 

Stop contributing to the dysfunction in your relationship, and set about creating a new improved relationship. You may be in for the fight of your life, but it is a fight you can win. You just need to be brave, just like you want your soulmate to be. You want your soulmate to be strong, well you have to be strong too.

 

What do you think your soulmate’s memory of you is? Do they think you have changed? Have you lost their respect? If you have, then you can look back and see where you let go of your self-respect. Vow to not do that ever again, not even for your soulmate.

 

The memory of a soulmate can be a good thing when you are looking for a new relationship. Some soulmates have had to let go of their soulmate for the present time. They find it very hard to find someone new to care about, and blame the memory of a soulmate. Look at it this way: If your soulmate made you raise the bar on what you want out of a relationship, that is a good thing. It keeps you from settling for something that is beneath you. And since you have raised the bar and want only the best in a partner, of course it is going to be harder to find. Pebbles are everywhere, diamonds are not. So don’t blame the memory of a soulmate from keeping you from finding someone new, because that is not always the case.

 

Sometimes the memory of a soulmate purposely keeps you from moving on because your soulmate will be returning. The universe triggers your soulmate memories to keep you from making a mistake or being involved with someone you shouldn’t be. Sometimes the memory of a soulmate, although painful, can save you from more pain down the line.

 

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

“I have lost my soulmate, what do I do?” That question comes up a lot, because countless people, at one time or another, feel they have lost their soulmate.

 

Some people lose a soulmate due to them passing on. Losing a soulmate through death, is a devastating blow and the survivor wonders how they will find the strength to move on with their life. Time is the only remedy when a soulmate passes on. It is hard to imagine life without them and the emotional loss seems unbearable. But you will, with time, find joy in life again. Your soulmate would want you to. Your soulmate would want you to be happy on the earth until you meet again on the other side, or in your next incarnation on the planet.

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

 

Again, it will take a long time to recover from this loss, but you will get there. Allow yourself the time you need to grieve your lost soulmate. Get support from friends, family, or even a professional therapist or grief counselor if you feel you can benefit from one. You may want some time alone, but don’t stay alone too long. You just need to get through it day by day, and eventually you will get to a point where you will feel more like yourself again.

 

Others who have lost a soulmate may only suffer a temporary loss. Your soulmate could be dating someone else, or have broken up with you. Will the break up last? Depends on both of you, but it does not have to be that they are lost permanently. Their new relationship may not last. Your soulmate could even marry someone else. That does not mean you have lost them forever.

 

So many soulmates have split apart, married other people, and even had children with other people. But down the line, many of them either seek one another out, or bump into each other serendipitously, and start their relationship back up from where they left it. This is often a bumpy road for soulmates and there can be many starts and stops along the way. Before you freak out completely thinking you have lost your soulmate forever, calm down before you do something that could actually cause what you most fear.

 

Losing a soulmate, even for a short period of time can be excruciatingly painful. If your soulmate made the decision to end your relationship, you may need to leave them be, no matter how hard it is. They obviously have something they need to work through, unless you did something BEYOND horrible, and you need to leave them to it. Let them learn their lessons. Try not to control them or the relationship itself.

 

Let them learn from their mistakes. Your soulmate’s mistakes may be exactly what they need to learn from in order for you both to have a harmonious relationship in the future. If you keep enabling them so they don’t learn anything at all, is it any wonder why the lesson keeps showing up again and again? Of course not. Until they learn, the lesson repeats. Since you can’t learn the lesson for them, leave them be. Stop making excuses to contact them, even for holidays and special occasions.

 

You may be afraid if you don’t do something you will lose your soulmate forever. You are wrong. You are just using your own fear to enable your soulmate to ruin your relationship. Why would you do that if you don’t want to lose your soulmate for good?

Losing Your Soulmate is One of the Worst Experiences in Life

Losing your soulmate can be one of the worst, if not the worst, experiences in your life. That unique special connection you share with another human being is one of the greatest feelings in the world, when you find them. On the flip side, losing your soulmate can be one of the worst feelings in the world because you think you will never feel love like that again.

 

How can you replace or replicate a one of a kind connection? As we wrote in our article Soulmates Don’t Grow on Trees, you obviously can’t just buy another one on E-bay or at the mall. What took you so long to finally find, only to wind up losing, is a devastating blow. But before you sink deeper into depression or have a panic attack, losing a soulmate is not the end of the world in many cases.

Losing Your Soulmate

               Losing Your Soulmate

 

In some cases, if you are losing your soulmate, there is a good reason for it. Your soulmate may be causing drama and sabotaging your relationship. Losing your soulmate for a while might actually benefit your relationship in the long run.Time apart, when they have had some time to think, and really know what it is like to lose YOU, could be all it takes for them to get the wake up call they need.

 

Wouldn’t you rather lose your soulmate for a while only to have your relationship be strong and better because of that time apart? Or, would you rather not lose your soulmate now, allowing them cause even more damage that could ruin the relationship for good anyway?

 

If you have done something truly terrible, that any reasonable person would consider ending a relationship with you over, then hopefully you have learned your lesson. If you are responsible for losing your soulmate, it could take a long while before you have a chance to get them back. Instead of making a nuisance of yourself and making them feel disrespected, back off. We know you want them back, but you may not deserve them back right now.

 

There are consequences to our actions, and your losing your soulmate, often temporarily, can be one of them. Your soulmate needs to get over their anger. Chasing them like a lunatic usually backfires. They just lash out all that anger on YOU. Give your soulmate some time to heal, and use that time to make sure you learned your lesson, and that the lesson sticks with you. You need to get it right, because if they do give you another chance, that could be your very last one.

 

If you did something minor, or not on purpose, and your soulmate is using that as an excuse to end your relationship, stand strong. Don’t let them punish you that way. Don’t let your fear of losing your soulmate make you grovel, beg, and apologize profusely when you shouldn’t have to. Letting your fear of losing your soulmate can often make your soulmate UNAFRAID of losing YOU. You don’t want that to happen, because if that fear goes, the chemistry dims, and their respect for you goes out the window.

 

If you are experiencing losing a soulmate because they have passed on, you are going to need time to heal. You may meet another soulmate at some point in your life, but for right now you have to focus on just yourself. The pain and loss of losing your soulmate is especially hard, so get support and help from others if/when you need it. Take time to grieve, be good to yourself and focus on some positive self-care.

 

Soulmate Depression: How To Survive

Soulmate depression is a lot like regular relationship depression. When things are not going well and chaos and drama are a part of daily life, it’s easy to understand why one would be in a state of depression. Of course you did not want things to get this bad. It sucks that you have tried everything you can think of to make your soulmate relationship better. It’s not fair that your soulmate left or refuses to deal with the strong connection the two of you share.

Soulmate Depression

Soulmate Depression: How To Survive

If your soulmate has ended your relationship your depression may be debilitating. So many soulmates take every argument to the extreme. One soulmate may make mountains out of mole hills and make all disagreements World War 3. The other soulmate may overact in their own way by thinking every time this happens they will break up and the relationship will be over. This cycle of behavior can easily bring on major depression.

When you allow your emotions to overwhelm you, which is easy in soulmate relationships, it is easy to fall into a state of soulmate depression. Creating an emotional distance from your own emotions is the best thing you can do. Take yourself out of what you feel and try to look at your relationship like an outsider would. Refrain from using the same old excuses to excuse yourself and your soulmate. Start speaking to yourself like a good friend would. Use though love. Use common sense. Use logic. Just stop using your emotions to make your decisions for you.

Something is not working on your end, and you have to find out what that is. Stop doing the same things looking for better results. That does not include just what you say and do towards your soulmate, but how you handle it within yourself internally. Stop with the melodrama. Stop letting your feelings take over all your thoughts. Stop worrying your relationship will be over or is over. Stop mourning the loss of your soulmate.

If you have broken up numerous times and got back together each time, what was the point of torturing yourself and going through soulmate depression when you didn’t have to? You went through it for nothing. It is time to come up with another way of handling your emotional triggers. If your soulmate has ended your relationship, the best thing you can do is allow yourself some time for healing. Don’t wallow in it, try to do what you can to distract yourself as best you can.

Look for something, anything, to bring yourself even a little bit of joy, even if it only lasts a minute or two. Don’t overeat, that will only make yourself feel worse when you are done and can contribute to the depression. Spend time with others, and don’t isolate yourself. If you must think of your soulmate, don’t focus on the wrong things. Wouldn’t it be more productive to think about what is right with the relationship, what they need (and you need) to change to make the relationship better if given another chance? Of course it would. Not all soulmates come back, but many, many do. Almost all soulmates have rough patches, and they can get through it. Do the best you can to draw your strength from the connection you have and use it to empower yourself going forward.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate obsession is very real and sometimes that strong connection you feel for someone can transform to a darker place. When people finally meet their soulmate, their love for them can become an obsession. They feel so much, too soon, for their soulmate and desire the relationship move along quickly so they can get to what they perceive to be the finish line. They are so excited the one they searched and hoped for is finally a part of their life. Unfortunately, they didn’t anticipate all the chaos and upheaval that can come with a soulmate relationship.

When these problems arise, and more often than not they will, soulmate obsession can take over. If you have read our many articles, you will know that soulmates often have a break period, or full break-up, in their relationship. This break can be long or short, occur only once, or repeatedly. During these breaks one of the soulmates can become obsessed with their partners every breath, thought, feeling and action. They feel that if they have this information they will have some sort of power, instead of feeling powerless, to help get through the period of disconnect and make sure their soulmate has not found someone else.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

They become more concerned with what is going on with their soulmate than what is transpiring in their own lives. Every little tidbit of information gleaned from social media, their friends or even stalking, they enhance and elaborate on with their imagination. This is not what the universe wants. The universe brings soulmates together to learn important life lessons and provide personal and spiritual growth. Are you stuck in a cycle of soulmate obsession wondering what they are doing and when they are coming back? Soulmate obsession can actually delay, or prevent altogether, the return of your soulmate because you are too focused on them rather than working on yourself.

Soulmate obsession is not relegated to waiting for a soulmate’s return. Many people become obsessed trying to find a soulmate. They feel they have waited forever and want to find them as quickly as possible, because they somehow feel incomplete without them. Every day an obsession with meeting a soulmate can grow exponentially and so does their disappointment and negativity. This obsession with “when will I meet my soul mate” doesn’t help anything. In actuality, it can hurt. How can you expect to attract your soul mate when you are sending out so much negativity? Since you are not in charge of when your soul mate shows up, why even focus on it? The universe will bring them in at the right time. That is their decision, not yours. So why try to take control over the universe by obsessing about your soulmate? If you believe in soulmates, and that there is one for you, let go of the “when”, because that is in the hands of destiny. Perhaps patience could be your lesson to learn?

The darkest part of soulmate obsession can occur when a soulmate ends a relationship. After being in an intense, super connected relationship with someone, you may find yourself at your lowest. As we mentioned, this is not the time to stalk their social media or try to discover everything going on their lives. This is the time for self-care where you truly focus on yourself. The emotional devastation that comes with losing a soulmate will take some time to heal. It is better to remove anything in your environment reminding you of your soulmate relationship and make a firm agreement with yourself to stay off the internet. Finding out what is going on in their life is not going to make you feel any better, it will only keep you stuck in the cycle of soulmate obsession. This is the time to spend time with friends and family who can nurture and support you, seek professional counseling to work through your loss or embark upon a journey of self-development.

The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it easy to obsess. When the going gets bad, it is better to have faith in the connection that brought you together. It is the lack of faith in the connection between soulmates when soulmate obsession creeps in. Do your best to keep the faith.

You may also want to consider the following posts:

Soulmate Separation Anxiety

How Can I Meet My Soulmate

Dark Night of the Soul and Soulmate Relationships

 

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