What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Soulmate Separation Anxiety

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

“I have lost my soulmate, what do I do?” That question comes up a lot, because countless people, at one time or another, feel they have lost their soulmate.

 

Some people lose a soulmate due to them passing on. Losing a soulmate through death, is a devastating blow and the survivor wonders how they will find the strength to move on with their life. Time is the only remedy when a soulmate passes on. It is hard to imagine life without them and the emotional loss seems unbearable. But you will, with time, find joy in life again. Your soulmate would want you to. Your soulmate would want you to be happy on the earth until you meet again on the other side, or in your next incarnation on the planet.

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

 

Again, it will take a long time to recover from this loss, but you will get there. Allow yourself the time you need to grieve your lost soulmate. Get support from friends, family, or even a professional therapist or grief counselor if you feel you can benefit from one. You may want some time alone, but don’t stay alone too long. You just need to get through it day by day, and eventually you will get to a point where you will feel more like yourself again.

 

Others who have lost a soulmate may only suffer a temporary loss. Your soulmate could be dating someone else, or have broken up with you. Will the break up last? Depends on both of you, but it does not have to be that they are lost permanently. Their new relationship may not last. Your soulmate could even marry someone else. That does not mean you have lost them forever.

 

So many soulmates have split apart, married other people, and even had children with other people. But down the line, many of them either seek one another out, or bump into each other serendipitously, and start their relationship back up from where they left it. This is often a bumpy road for soulmates and there can be many starts and stops along the way. Before you freak out completely thinking you have lost your soulmate forever, calm down before you do something that could actually cause what you most fear.

 

Losing a soulmate, even for a short period of time can be excruciatingly painful. If your soulmate made the decision to end your relationship, you may need to leave them be, no matter how hard it is. They obviously have something they need to work through, unless you did something BEYOND horrible, and you need to leave them to it. Let them learn their lessons. Try not to control them or the relationship itself.

 

Let them learn from their mistakes. Your soulmate’s mistakes may be exactly what they need to learn from in order for you both to have a harmonious relationship in the future. If you keep enabling them so they don’t learn anything at all, is it any wonder why the lesson keeps showing up again and again? Of course not. Until they learn, the lesson repeats. Since you can’t learn the lesson for them, leave them be. Stop making excuses to contact them, even for holidays and special occasions.

 

You may be afraid if you don’t do something you will lose your soulmate forever. You are wrong. You are just using your own fear to enable your soulmate to ruin your relationship. Why would you do that if you don’t want to lose your soulmate for good?

Soulmate Depression: How To Survive

Soulmate depression is a lot like regular relationship depression. When things are not going well and chaos and drama are a part of daily life, it’s easy to understand why one would be in a state of depression. Of course you did not want things to get this bad. It sucks that you have tried everything you can think of to make your soulmate relationship better. It’s not fair that your soulmate left or refuses to deal with the strong connection the two of you share.

Soulmate Depression

Soulmate Depression: How To Survive

If your soulmate has ended your relationship your depression may be debilitating. So many soulmates take every argument to the extreme. One soulmate may make mountains out of mole hills and make all disagreements World War 3. The other soulmate may overact in their own way by thinking every time this happens they will break up and the relationship will be over. This cycle of behavior can easily bring on major depression.

When you allow your emotions to overwhelm you, which is easy in soulmate relationships, it is easy to fall into a state of soulmate depression. Creating an emotional distance from your own emotions is the best thing you can do. Take yourself out of what you feel and try to look at your relationship like an outsider would. Refrain from using the same old excuses to excuse yourself and your soulmate. Start speaking to yourself like a good friend would. Use though love. Use common sense. Use logic. Just stop using your emotions to make your decisions for you.

Something is not working on your end, and you have to find out what that is. Stop doing the same things looking for better results. That does not include just what you say and do towards your soulmate, but how you handle it within yourself internally. Stop with the melodrama. Stop letting your feelings take over all your thoughts. Stop worrying your relationship will be over or is over. Stop mourning the loss of your soulmate.

If you have broken up numerous times and got back together each time, what was the point of torturing yourself and going through soulmate depression when you didn’t have to? You went through it for nothing. It is time to come up with another way of handling your emotional triggers. If your soulmate has ended your relationship, the best thing you can do is allow yourself some time for healing. Don’t wallow in it, try to do what you can to distract yourself as best you can.

Look for something, anything, to bring yourself even a little bit of joy, even if it only lasts a minute or two. Don’t overeat, that will only make yourself feel worse when you are done and can contribute to the depression. Spend time with others, and don’t isolate yourself. If you must think of your soulmate, don’t focus on the wrong things. Wouldn’t it be more productive to think about what is right with the relationship, what they need (and you need) to change to make the relationship better if given another chance? Of course it would. Not all soulmates come back, but many, many do. Almost all soulmates have rough patches, and they can get through it. Do the best you can to draw your strength from the connection you have and use it to empower yourself going forward.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate obsession is very real and sometimes that strong connection you feel for someone can transform to a darker place. When people finally meet their soulmate, their love for them can become an obsession. They feel so much, too soon, for their soulmate and desire the relationship move along quickly so they can get to what they perceive to be the finish line. They are so excited the one they searched and hoped for is finally a part of their life. Unfortunately, they didn’t anticipate all the chaos and upheaval that can come with a soulmate relationship.

When these problems arise, and more often than not they will, soulmate obsession can take over. If you have read our many articles, you will know that soulmates often have a break period, or full break-up, in their relationship. This break can be long or short, occur only once, or repeatedly. During these breaks one of the soulmates can become obsessed with their partners every breath, thought, feeling and action. They feel that if they have this information they will have some sort of power, instead of feeling powerless, to help get through the period of disconnect and make sure their soulmate has not found someone else.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

They become more concerned with what is going on with their soulmate than what is transpiring in their own lives. Every little tidbit of information gleaned from social media, their friends or even stalking, they enhance and elaborate on with their imagination. This is not what the universe wants. The universe brings soulmates together to learn important life lessons and provide personal and spiritual growth. Are you stuck in a cycle of soulmate obsession wondering what they are doing and when they are coming back? Soulmate obsession can actually delay, or prevent altogether, the return of your soulmate because you are too focused on them rather than working on yourself.

Soulmate obsession is not relegated to waiting for a soulmate’s return. Many people become obsessed trying to find a soulmate. They feel they have waited forever and want to find them as quickly as possible, because they somehow feel incomplete without them. Every day an obsession with meeting a soulmate can grow exponentially and so does their disappointment and negativity. This obsession with “when will I meet my soul mate” doesn’t help anything. In actuality, it can hurt. How can you expect to attract your soul mate when you are sending out so much negativity? Since you are not in charge of when your soul mate shows up, why even focus on it? The universe will bring them in at the right time. That is their decision, not yours. So why try to take control over the universe by obsessing about your soulmate? If you believe in soulmates, and that there is one for you, let go of the “when”, because that is in the hands of destiny. Perhaps patience could be your lesson to learn?

The darkest part of soulmate obsession can occur when a soulmate ends a relationship. After being in an intense, super connected relationship with someone, you may find yourself at your lowest. As we mentioned, this is not the time to stalk their social media or try to discover everything going on their lives. This is the time for self-care where you truly focus on yourself. The emotional devastation that comes with losing a soulmate will take some time to heal. It is better to remove anything in your environment reminding you of your soulmate relationship and make a firm agreement with yourself to stay off the internet. Finding out what is going on in their life is not going to make you feel any better, it will only keep you stuck in the cycle of soulmate obsession. This is the time to spend time with friends and family who can nurture and support you, seek professional counseling to work through your loss or embark upon a journey of self-development.

The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it easy to obsess. When the going gets bad, it is better to have faith in the connection that brought you together. It is the lack of faith in the connection between soulmates when soulmate obsession creeps in. Do your best to keep the faith.

You may also want to consider the following posts:

Soulmate Separation Anxiety

How Can I Meet My Soulmate

Dark Night of the Soul and Soulmate Relationships

 

Dark Night of the Soul and Soulmate Relationships

Dark Night of the Soul and Soulmate Relationships

A dark night of the soul is often considered to be a crises point in one’s relationship with God, the Goddess or the Universe. The ultimate outcome for a dark night of the soul, is union with the Divine. To reach that union, however, one must travel through the darkness and have a dark night of the soul experience. When we journey through a dark night experience, we may often feel abandoned by God, or separated from the Divine. We may feel our prayers go unanswered, that God does not hear us and that others in our lives may disregard us. It is a time of adversity and suffering. The dark night of the soul represents darkness we must endure to reach the union with the Divine. A dark night of the soul hits us when we are at rock bottom and have nowhere else to look, but up. It is the pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps and getting on with our lives that creates the journey back to the Divine. And this is where we will see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.

In a real dark night of the soul it is always three o’clock in the morning — F. Scott Fitzgerald

Dark Night of the Soul

Dark Night of the Soul

Many people in soulmate relationships often feel they are going through a dark night of the soul. A separation from a soulmate, or ending of a soulmate relationship, can very much feel like a dark night of the soul experience. You may feel as if you world has come to and end and that you will not be able endure the heartache and heartbreak you most certainly feel when you have lost a soulmate. When your soulmate leaves you, ends the relationship or tells you he needs a break from the relationship, you feel as if you have had the rug ripped out from beneath you. You might even feel as if you have had your heart ripped out. Some of these endings though are temporary, but sadly some of them will be permanent.

A dark night of the soul in a soulmate relationship can have several layers. You could be experiencing the dark night while dealing with a soulmate separation or ending of a soulmate relationship. During this time you will feel and mourn the loss of your soulmate. Instead of getting on with your life you might find yourself in a deep depression, feeling melancholy and obsessing over and over again about your soulmate returning to you. You might forgo paying bills, taking care of the yard and failing to do the things you normally would in taking good care of yourself.  More than likely you will cry out to God, the Universe, the Angels and all your friends to try to understand and comprehend why this is happening to you. And this is ok, because it will draw you closer to the divine spark. The loss of the relationship is the thing that brings you closer to God.

Soulmate relationships, as we have discussed time and again, are about personal and spiritual growth. Unfortunately most folks don’t encounter personal growth when everything is groovy. It takes hitting rock bottom, finding yourself in the gutter or feeling as if you have lost everything to make people cry out to the Universe for help. You cry, you pray, you cry again and pray some more. This is the experience that allows us to have the union with the Divine, that allows you to give it all to the Universe, because you just can’t take anymore. It is what will ultimately allow you to find peace.

There are times when the soulmate returns to create a fresh start and new beginning, but you still traveled through that dark night. It might have been a time of loneliness and isolation, a time of deep despair, but during that time, you grew in some way. There had to be growth on some level during this dark night of the soul. It is perhaps the very thing you needed to work on and address before the two of you could reunite and grow together as a couple. Your soulmate had to learn something as well, and probably had his own dark night experience. The point is, you both evolved through this separation and can now embrace your relationship from a higher perspective. You met the Divine on your journey and now the relationship will be stronger, better and more mature.

Excerpt from The Dark Night of the Soul – Loreena McKennitt

Oh night thou was my guide
oh night more loving than the rising sun
Oh night that joined the lover
to the beloved one
transforming each of them into the other

Within my pounding heart
which kept itself entirely for him
He fell into his sleep
beneath the cedars all my love I gave
And by the fortress walls
the wind would brush his hair against his brow
And with its smoothest hand
caressed my every sense it would allow

I lost myself to him
and laid my face upon my lovers breast
And care and grief grew dim
as in the mornings mist became the light
There they dimmed amongst the lilies fair

Are you going through a dark night of the soul experience with your soulmate or twin flame relationship? Has the relationship ended and you are having a difficult time dealing with the emotional trauma of that ending and fear you will not see the light again?  Are you currently separated from your soulmate or twinflame partner and wonder if you will be reunited? Do you question if you will be able to find true love again? Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are expert soulmate twinflame psychic advisors and love and relationship life coaches. If you are dealing with a difficult relationship issue or breakup, they will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel again and empower you to get your life on track.

Soulmate Limbo Sucks

Soulmate Limbo Sucks

Soulmate limbo is a very difficult place to exist. Actually being in any kind of relationship limbo sucks, but especially so when you are in limbo waiting for your soulmate to get their act together. You feel you can not move forward with your life, because you don’t know what your soulmate is doing in regard to your relationship. You will often find yourself in soulmate limbo when on you have not heard from your soulmate in a few weeks, or longer. You can also be stuck in soulmate limbo after a breakup, if you believe and truly know, your soulmate will come back to you.

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Soulmate Limbo Sucks

When you are stuck in soulmate limbo you have to focus your attention, attitude and energy on getting unstuck. For most soulmate relationships, this is easier said than done.  If you are in a relationship where the soulmate connection is strong, you may even find it quite painful to be in soulmate limbo.  Soulmate separation anxiety can become extreme when you are stuck in soulmate limbo because not only are you without your soulmate, you have no idea what the hell is going on with them. All attempts, on your part, to reach them have gone unanswered and they have obviously decided to ignore you. Ignoring someone is one of the rudest things they can do because it shows you how little you matter to them.

When we realize you are stuck in soulmate limbo, we have to ask you, what are you doing for yourself and for your life? Are you waiting for the phone to ring or text message to appear? Are you counting the days since the last communication wondering if you will ever hear from your guy again? Change your focus. Instead of focusing on him and what he may, or may not be doing, focus on yourself and what you should be doing.

Are you stuck in soulmate limbo because you need to learn your soulmate lessons? Very often we will see these relationships hit the limbo place because either one of your, or even both of you, are not working on what needs to be addressed for your own personal growth. Soulmate relationships are not always about growing together, although growing the relationship certainly does happen when you are sharing your time and energy together. And that will come again, once you are out of the limbo state.  Are you supposed to be learning something new? Are you supposed to be focused on a career change? Are you supposed to be focused on transforming a part of yourself, either physically or spiritually, that must happen before your relationship can get moving again?

Being stuck in soulmate limbo sucks. You have not heard from your soulmate and wonder if you will ever hear from them again. If your soulmate has ended you relationship, you may wonder if you will get back together. Each soulmate relationship is different and quite often a different tactic will be required to try to fix it. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are soulmate specialists with over fifty years combined experience helping people resolve their love and relationship issues. A soulmate reading will help see why you are stuck in soulmate limbo and what you can do, if anything, to release it.

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