What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Soulmate Relationship

Is Your Soulmate Ready for a Soulmate Relationship?

Many times your soulmate is not ready for your soulmate relationship. When they are unable to accept and acknowledge your connection it can leave you in an emotional mess. Many people contact us to inquire what can be done to facilitate the journey down the path of soulmate bliss. Unfortunately, you can’t do anything.

 

You cannot make your soulmate ready, and you can’t help them become ready. The only thing you can do is allow them the time or space they need to become ready. Long winded discussions will, in almost all cases, do absolutely nothing to make your soulmate become ready for the relationship. So stop trying to convince them and stop pleading your case. If they want space, then give it to them. You may feel that is the hardest thing to do, but in reality it is not.

Is Your Soulmate Ready

                     Is Your Soulmate Ready?

 

The hardest thing on your soulmate relationship is trying to force it when someone is resisting you. It causes more damage, ruins self-esteem, and creates bad habits that are very hard to break further down the road. Giving them time, although difficult on your end, is the smartest thing to do. Show them the confidence you claim to have in your connection with your actions instead of your words. If you want them to believe you should be together, than show them your faith, instead of chasing after them because of your fears.

 

There are endless reasons your soulmate may not be ready for the relationship. They may  need to get out of another relationship before they are free to be with you. They may need to heal from a past relationship that caused them a lot of drama, trauma and chaos. They could be paralyzed by fear, spooked by the connection and intensity of feelings never experienced before meeting you.

 

Your soulmate may have to focus on family issues or a serious illness of someone close to them. Your soulmate may be going through a bitter divorce or child custody battle. Your soulmate could be trying to control the relationship by saying they are not ready for you. Soulmates tend to shake things up, and let’s face it, it can be scary and make you question your own sanity.

 

It really does not matter why. Any reason they present is not a good enough reason, so ultimately it won’t make a difference. It can’t change how they feel, regardless of what you or they believe. Unless you specifically did something, and it would have to be pretty huge, their reason won’t make them forget you. So stop worrying about it. Just like you can’t let go of them and stop thinking of them they won’t be able to do it either. Instead of obsessing about reasons they are not ready or wondering when they will be ready, focus on something else.

 

You already got the red flag they are more than likely going to challenge you in this relationship. That is going to take your inner strength, not your weakness, to surmount those challenges. Stay strong, and stay focused on the right things so that you will be ready when they are.

 

The Memory of a Soulmate and How It Affects You

The memory of a soulmate affects different people in different ways. For some, the memory of a soulmate makes them wonder what went wrong in the relationship. They can obsess on what they did wrong, what they could have done differently, or if the whole thing was a figment of their imagination. For people like that, the memory of a soulmate keeps them from moving forward.

 

Even people in a soulmate relationships that are in a very dysfunctional state allow the memory of good times to cloud their judgement. They remember the time when things were good, and believe that is how things should be, and will be, if they just hang in there. They hope being loving toward their soulmate will in turn cause them to return that love. In many cases, just hanging in there and being loving just makes things worse for the couple.

The Memory of a Soulmate

                                The Memory of a Soulmate

 

Sometimes the memory of how things were for soulmates, during good times, holds people back from doing what really needs to be done to make the relationship better. Forget about the past for now. Don’t even focus so much on the future. You need to put your attention on the present because it is what will shape your relationship going forward. Look at the problems you are currently facing, and look for new ways to create change. Stop using the behaviors you used in the past. Those clearly didn’t work.

 

Stop contributing to the dysfunction in your relationship, and set about creating a new improved relationship. You may be in for the fight of your life, but it is a fight you can win. You just need to be brave, just like you want your soulmate to be. You want your soulmate to be strong, well you have to be strong too.

 

What do you think your soulmate’s memory of you is? Do they think you have changed? Have you lost their respect? If you have, then you can look back and see where you let go of your self-respect. Vow to not do that ever again, not even for your soulmate.

 

The memory of a soulmate can be a good thing when you are looking for a new relationship. Some soulmates have had to let go of their soulmate for the present time. They find it very hard to find someone new to care about, and blame the memory of a soulmate. Look at it this way: If your soulmate made you raise the bar on what you want out of a relationship, that is a good thing. It keeps you from settling for something that is beneath you. And since you have raised the bar and want only the best in a partner, of course it is going to be harder to find. Pebbles are everywhere, diamonds are not. So don’t blame the memory of a soulmate from keeping you from finding someone new, because that is not always the case.

 

Sometimes the memory of a soulmate purposely keeps you from moving on because your soulmate will be returning. The universe triggers your soulmate memories to keep you from making a mistake or being involved with someone you shouldn’t be. Sometimes the memory of a soulmate, although painful, can save you from more pain down the line.

 

Is Your Soulmate Keeping You a Secret?

Is your soulmate keeping you a secret? Does your soulmate hide your existence from everyone he knows? Do you hate being the secret your soulmate won’t share with those around them? No one wants to be someone’s secret, we want them to proudly acknowledge our relationship with them. So why are soulmates often kept as a secret?

 

Sometimes one soulmate is already in a relationship. Instead of ending that relationship, which is the more honorable thing to do, they choose to cheat on their current romantic partner. Under these circumstances it is understandable why they choose to keep their soulmate relationship hidden from those who may judge them.

 

Is Your Soulmate Keeping You a Secret

                                Is Your Soulmate Keeping You a Secret

On the other hand, it could be that either you or your soulmate have children they want to hide the relationship from. They may feel the children are not ready to know their parent is involved with someone new. Their children may have a negative reaction to a new relationship. To void the drama that could come with it, they keep their soulmate a secret. Some soulmates keep their relationship a secret from their children until they know the relationship will last. These are not bad reasons for keeping the relationship a secret. But that secret should only be kept for a reasonable amount of time. Children should not dictate the lives of their parents, and parents should not be afraid of their children. At a certain point a parent should feel free to introduce their soulmate to their kids.

 

If your soulmate is in denial, they may keep you as a secret to those around them. They may not even acknowledge to YOU they believe you are their soulmate. It is hard for some people to talk about how they feel about another person. Some people think if they talk about how good something is going they are going to jinx it. Until your soulmate is able to accept the reality of their feelings for you, they won’t bring you out into the open. They will act single, and may even tell you they are not ready for a relationship.

 

Until you decide you will not enable them to continue hiding, this could drag on indefinitely. Sometimes being apart from a soulmate can force them to face their feelings head on. Once they do that, it is much more difficult for them to deny them. Then there should be no more reason to keep your relationship a secret and then your soulmate connection can be made public.

 

Some soulmates meet and immediately keep their relationship a secret. Sometimes families may disapprove, for religious or cultural reasons, but sometimes it is simply because they are dysfunctional. There will come a time, and they should wait too long, for them to tell the truth about your relationship. The problem isn’t going away, it won’t disappear and this won’t work itself out by magic. At some point soulmates must be brave enough to stand up to a family that opposes them. They have to show their family how serious the relationship is and that they are willing to fight for it. You may not like confrontation, but sneaking around forever and being terrified of being caught sucks too. And if you get caught, instead of coming clean, it often makes the situation much, much worse.

 

There are reasons for keeping a soulmate secret. But there is no reason for keeping that soulmate a secret for an unreasonable time, or indefinitely. If your soulmate is keeping you a secret, it may be time for you to put your foot down, and insist they bring your relationship out into the world.

 

Soulmate Tests: Are You Passing or Failing?

Is your soulmate failing all the soulmate tests the universe is presenting to you both individually and as a couple? Has your soulmate turned their back on you or denied your soulmate connection? Have they tested your strength and sanity with irrational or cruel behavior? Has your soulmate disappeared, refusing to see or speak to you? Has your soulmate run from your arms to someone else’s?

 

If your soulmate has done any of the above, they are seriously failing their soulmate tests. The universe does not bring soulmates into our lives for just romance and happy times. The true path of the soulmate connection is to change our perspective on the direction our life path is headed. Our soulmates are there to help us see the changes that we need to make in order to be more fulfilled and to live our best and most authentic lives.

 

Soulmate relationships always come with a series of soulmate tests. If we keep failing test after test, the lessons will just get harder and harder. If we keep failing our soulmate tests, the Universe can often resort to smashing our heads with a 2X4 or drop the equivalent of a 14 pound bowling ball on our heads, until we get the lesson. So before your soulmate relationship hits the breaking point, learn to pass the tests, instead of failing.
 

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Soulmate Tests: Passing or Failing?

Keep in mind that each of you may have tests both individually, and as a couple. Whatever test the universe is giving your soulmate, it is up to them to pass or fail. You can help them, but you can’t take the test for them. That’s cheating. You may be doing things with the best of intentions, but are setting your soulmate up to keep failing the test. Interfering in your soulmate’s lessons will only cause them to be tested again, until they can stand on their own two feet.

 

For example, if the Universe may want your soulmate to stop sabotaging the good things that come into their life. They may have a pattern of behavior in relationships, or other areas of their life, where acting out or being unreasonable sabotages their relationship with you. The Universe put you in this relationship to be a catalyst for change, not to enable them.

 

Perhaps the Universe, at the same time, wants you to learn to stand up for yourself. If you enable your soulmate by accepting and feeding into their bad behavior, you set them up to keep failing. You will keep failing your test as well, because you are not standing your ground. So what might seem to be the right thing, or easier thing, to do actually the wrong thing to do. You may say “Well, I am not a confrontational person”. And that may be exactly what the universe wants you to change.

 

Of course, they don’t want to you to become banshee confrontational, but they want you to confront things head on when needed. This may be a hard test for you to pass, but it was not meant to be easy. Otherwise you would not be getting this lesson at this point in your life. You contracted with your soulmate to have this life lesson with them for your own personal growth and development. Their soulmate contract with you was to stop sabotaging their relationships.

 

The Universe wants you to work on this because it benefit you at some point in the future. If you are tired of retaking the same tests over and over again, learn your lesson. It should be obvious that what you are presently doing to keep the peace isn’t working. So isn’t it time to really learn what the Universe is really telling you? If you want your life, and your soul mate relationship, to get better YOU need to do better. If something isn’t working, stop doing the same thing over and over again to try to fix it. Try something new. As they say, you can’t change anything until you change yourself. In changing yourself, you may have a much better chance of passing, not failing the test. Passing your soulmate tests can actually create a dynamic to help your soulmate pass their tests as well.

 

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

“I have lost my soulmate, what do I do?” That question comes up a lot, because countless people, at one time or another, feel they have lost their soulmate.

 

Some people lose a soulmate due to them passing on. Losing a soulmate through death, is a devastating blow and the survivor wonders how they will find the strength to move on with their life. Time is the only remedy when a soulmate passes on. It is hard to imagine life without them and the emotional loss seems unbearable. But you will, with time, find joy in life again. Your soulmate would want you to. Your soulmate would want you to be happy on the earth until you meet again on the other side, or in your next incarnation on the planet.

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

I Have Lost My Soulmate, Now What Do I Do?

 

Again, it will take a long time to recover from this loss, but you will get there. Allow yourself the time you need to grieve your lost soulmate. Get support from friends, family, or even a professional therapist or grief counselor if you feel you can benefit from one. You may want some time alone, but don’t stay alone too long. You just need to get through it day by day, and eventually you will get to a point where you will feel more like yourself again.

 

Others who have lost a soulmate may only suffer a temporary loss. Your soulmate could be dating someone else, or have broken up with you. Will the break up last? Depends on both of you, but it does not have to be that they are lost permanently. Their new relationship may not last. Your soulmate could even marry someone else. That does not mean you have lost them forever.

 

So many soulmates have split apart, married other people, and even had children with other people. But down the line, many of them either seek one another out, or bump into each other serendipitously, and start their relationship back up from where they left it. This is often a bumpy road for soulmates and there can be many starts and stops along the way. Before you freak out completely thinking you have lost your soulmate forever, calm down before you do something that could actually cause what you most fear.

 

Losing a soulmate, even for a short period of time can be excruciatingly painful. If your soulmate made the decision to end your relationship, you may need to leave them be, no matter how hard it is. They obviously have something they need to work through, unless you did something BEYOND horrible, and you need to leave them to it. Let them learn their lessons. Try not to control them or the relationship itself.

 

Let them learn from their mistakes. Your soulmate’s mistakes may be exactly what they need to learn from in order for you both to have a harmonious relationship in the future. If you keep enabling them so they don’t learn anything at all, is it any wonder why the lesson keeps showing up again and again? Of course not. Until they learn, the lesson repeats. Since you can’t learn the lesson for them, leave them be. Stop making excuses to contact them, even for holidays and special occasions.

 

You may be afraid if you don’t do something you will lose your soulmate forever. You are wrong. You are just using your own fear to enable your soulmate to ruin your relationship. Why would you do that if you don’t want to lose your soulmate for good?

SOPHIA ELISE

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