You may see nothing wrong with stalking your soulmate. You may try your hardest not keep stalking your soulmate but you find yourself giving in. You check your soulmate’s social media accounts. You check your soulmate’s friends, family or partners social media accounts. You may check their phone when they leave it unattended. You may read their emails when they are not looking. You may drive by their home, their workplace, or their hangouts. You try to stop, but just can’t seem to stop.
Is it because you don’t trust your soulmate? Is it because you and your soulmate are estranged or broken up? Is it because you are insecure and feel the need to find out what they are up to? Has your soulmate been acting strangely and won’t explain why? Is your inner voice telling you that something is going on and that’s why you are stalking your soulmate? What is it that you are hoping to find out about your soulmate that makes you feel the need to stalk them this way? If you have been doing this, have you found out any valuable information? There is nothing wrong with doing a little checking here and there IF you are in a relationship and something seems a bit “off”. If you find yourself having to do these things often, you need to stop.
Stalking your soulmate isn’t going to cure what is wrong with your relationship, especially if you are not going to do anything with the information you find out, or if you get caught. If you are an insecure person fix your insecurity on your own because stalking isn’t going to fix your insecurity. It will only feed the urge to keep doing it. Without trust a relationship cannot grow, so stop the stalking your soulmate and try another method of getting your insecurities squashed.
If your soulmate has given you a valid reason to be insecure, then it is up to them to help you get over that. If they won’t, then it may be time for a break. If you soulmate disappears, or you catch them texting other people, or caught them doing something wrong then one of you has to do something. Either your soulmate stops the bad behavior or you have to put your foot down. What will stalking do if when you catch them you don’t do anything about it? Nothing. It just lets them know they can get away with it, and they will do it again.
What you allow will continue. So if you are a soulmate stalker, then be prepared to do something with the information you find. Otherwise there is not point to this but self-torture. It is a symptom of a bigger problem in your soulmate relationship, and if you don’t fix it, don’t expect stalking to cure it, because it won’t.
If you and your soulmate are not together, of course there is a temptation to stalk them. But what does it get you? It helps you stay stuck. It keeps them on your mind and in the cycle of insecurity. It gives you countless hours of worry, wasted time, wasted energy and feeds your fears. It feeds your obsession and makes you weak. It can trigger a call, text or email to them that you shouldn’t make. It holds your mind, body, and soul hostage. And let’s face it, you aren’t finding out anything that is helpful to you. You are just subjecting yourself to behavior that is beneath you. You feel ashamed of yourself. You feel like a loser. So why keep stalking your soulmate? Deal with an estranged soulmate when they come back, if they come back. Otherwise live your life instead of stalking theirs. It is the only way to stay strong and empowered.