It is usually very easy to give your soulmate a second chance. You probably would have cut ties with anyone else immediately if they had acted the same way as your soulmate. You wouldn’t think twice about it either. But your soulmate is a different story. Most people we have spoken with acknowledge that when it comes to their soulmate, they let things slide the normally would never have with anyone else. A soulmate is such a unique and significant connection that it is not hard to give them another chance.
What other choice do you have but to give your soulmate a second chance? You can’t break the connection so what alternative do you have? This is a common problem for people in soulmate relationships. When you feel powerless to disconnect from a soulmate, what do you do when their behavior gets out of control? What do you do when they cheat repeatedly? What do you do when they disrespect you? What can you do when your soulmate does the wrong thing over and over again? Many feel they have no choice but to give their soulmate endless chances due to their connection. At some point it has to be your soulmate’s last chance.
Unfortunately, because of this thinking, soulmate relationships often become dysfunctional relationships. The pattern of bad behavior without real consequence or fear of repercussion gets out of control and completely derails the path of the relationship. What was once a blessing now has become a curse. Your soulmate knows you will give them a second chance no matter what they do, so they believe they can get away with anything and everything.
In many cases your soulmate knows they may not even have to apologize or ask for a second chance. Why? Because they know the person they hurt will fix everything for them. Although they were the one who did everything wrong, the soulmate they hurt winds up being the bigger person. This is demeaning to the soulmate and disrespectful to the connection they share. It is taking advantage of the connection so they can do the wrong thing. This is most certainly not what the universe had in mind at all when they brought you together.
So what can you do? How can you not give your soulmate a second chance, or third, fourth, fifth, and so on? You can give your soulmate a second chance, but not a second chance at screwing up your relationship again. What you can give your soulmate is the chance to get their act together. When you give your soulmate a free pass you a not giving them a chance to do better. You are enabling them to stay the same.
Stop cleaning up their mess for them. Make them step up to the plate and be a grown up. Make them accept the responsibility for their words and actions. Stop doing it for them. Give them the chance to change. If you want your soul mate to do the right thing, then you need to do the right thing.
If you have to give your soulmate some space to do that alone, then give it to them. You gave them enough chances to do it with you, and they blew it. Let them be alone without you for a while. Let them see what they can lose if they don’t get it together. Let them regret what they have done. Let them learn from their mistakes instead of taking the lessons away from them. It may be scary, but if you had enough faith in your connection to give them a second chance when they didn’t deserve one, use that same faith to stand strong.