Once you get on the soulmate merry-go-round it can be tough to get off. You didn’t sign up for a ride that can literally spin you out of control but the ride never seems to slow down enough for you to get off. So how did you wind up on the soulmate merry-go-round?
When soulmates first meet the highs are unimaginable. You get swept away in the moment and in the emotion. It is something so unique, and so deeply felt, that you cannot help but want to go with the flow. Every emotion becomes heightened and has more depth. Because of the soulmate connection there is a feeling of recognition, and that you have known this person far longer than you actually have. It seems to easy, and so right.
Those feelings are real between soulmates, but what is also reality is that you don’t know your soulmate in some very important ways. Sure, you may know a lot of personal details but you don’t know what your connection is meant to teach both of you. Those lessons are what will challenge your soulmate, your relationship, and you. It is all tied together.
It is these lessons that start the soulmate merry-go-round. You go round and round and round, just like on a real merry-go-round. It is just as, if not more important, what you do when things are spinning. In many cases it is how both soulmates react and behave when their “ride” goes around and around that sets relationship patterns and boundaries going forward. It shapes the relationship itself and where it is headed.
If you do not handle your soulmate merry-go-round well, you can expect the ride to continue, just like the amusement park. And it is the same thing with the soulmate roller coaster. Don’t expect it to stop all on its own. One of you caused the spinning, and it is up to the both of you to handle it properly so it doesn’t keep happening.
For instance, let’s say everything is going great between you and your soulmate. You both are happy, in love, and planning for your future. You are getting along and everything seems perfect. Then, out of the blue your soulmate’s ex calls. You get nervous, but your soulmate reassures you that there is nothing to worry about. They already told you how horrible and toxic that relationship was. So you relax a little. Now you find out their ex called again, or that they have been talking to them here and there. Alarm bells should be going off, because here comes a soulmate merry-go-round spin cycle.
You can be firm and tell them their ex has no place in your relationship and they must cease conversation with them, or you can trust them to handle it. Of course you should know already that they are not handling it properly. If you don’t put your foot down chances are you are going to have to deal with their ex’s interference for a long time to come. This will erode the trust in your relationship and cause insecurity and arguments, or they could suddenly dump you and go back to their ex. So you really have no choice but to nip this in the bud, do you? No, you don’t.
And if you don’t nip it in the bud, your soulmate and their ex have taken control of the soulmate merry-go-round and the ride is going to become very unpleasant for you. Your soulmate’s lesson has come into play. They should have chosen to avoid their ex at all costs but instead opened the door. If you do not do what you should do, which is stand your ground and let them know this is unacceptable, you are assisting in creating a soulmate relationship that will now involve a third-party.
Trust us, you do NOT want to do this. Bring the ride to a screeching halt. Get off the ride if you have to. Let your soulmate take the ride themselves, and wait for their solo ride to get so unpleasant without you that they get off. Don’t take that ride with them. It will only prolong this soulmate merry-go-round ride from hell, and that is the last thing you want to do.