Soulmate connections give people the idea they must stay together at all costs. The soulmate connection is used as a reason to allow bad behavior and mistreatment in relationships. We understand how difficult it is to let a soulmate go, but sometimes it is even harder to stay with them. Many feel they are powerless and use all the wrong reasons to stay with a soulmate.
As we have discussed in previous articles there are times when soulmates separate. There are many reasons why soulmates cannot stay together. There may be a job relocation, a health crisis and many other things that could end the relationship. Sometimes it is in the best interest of the couple to separate. In many cases it is wrong to stay with a soulmate but people find many excuses to stay within that soulmate relationship. When this occurs you are unable to see the big picture. When you are emotionally involved in a situation, it is more difficult to see things from a logical perspective.
Many people stay with a soulmate because they fear making them angry. Why should you be the only angry person in the relationship? Why would you stay with a soulmate who is disrespectful to you and your soulmate status? Why are you worried about making them angry when they never seem to worry about your feelings? If you have to remove yourself from your soulmate for a while, it may be for the best. You are hoping for a long-term relationship with your soulmate, but shouldn’t you hope for a change first? Why continue if this soulmate relationship long-term if they are only going to make your life a living hell?
Staying with a soulmate because you believe your connection condemns you to mistreatment is another wrong reason to stay in the relationship. They should not have the freedom to do as they please at your expense just because they are your soulmate. Sometimes leaving your soulmate alone to think about their behavior is like hitting a reset button. Giving your soulmate a time out may help to dissipate some of the bad energy between you. Just because you leave does not mean you are leaving permanently. It just means you need a breather from all the chaos. This breather gives your soulmate some time to think about their actions. It also gives you some time to let go of your emotions and look at the situation from a clearer perspective.
Another wrong reason to stay with a soulmate is the fear of losing them forever. So many soulmates have spent time apart. So many soulmates have spent years apart. Did that keep them apart? In many cases it did not. It could be that your soulmate is testing you to see what they can get away with. The more you let them get away with, the more dysfunction they bring to the table. Sometimes being brave and walking away or keeping a distance is all it takes to show your soulmate they have crossed a dangerous line. This allows them to know and respect your boundaries instead of walking all over them.
One of the many wrong reasons to stay with a soulmate is that you would rather have them in your life than not. While that sounds good on paper it depends on the situation. Of course we all need to put up with some bad behavior now and again, but if your soulmate relationship is toxic, your reasoning it wrong. It is best for both of you to take some time apart and let go of the dysfunctional horror show of a relationship you have created. This allows you to start over and build a new one. Instead of trying to repair a broken down shack, knock it down and rebuild a castle. Build it upon a new sturdier foundation. It will be less work than fixing the shack and more stable once it is built. This goes for any relationship really; sometimes it is best to begin anew.
Soulmates need to focus on their reasons to do the right things in their relationships. That will create healthier long-term soulmate relationships. When they are focused on the wrong things, all that is created is dysfunctional unhappy soulmate relationships.