Dwelling on Your Ex or Past Relationship

Dwelling on Your Ex or Past Relationship

Do you often find yourself dwelling on your ex? Do you hope and fantasize a past relationship will come back into your life? Do you stare at the calender, every day, and say, this time last year we were doing? Are you holding on to anything and everything that reminds you of your ex and the time you spent together?

After a breakup, it is normal to feel sad, or even depressed, at the loss of that relationship, especially a soulmate relationship. It is common to spend several weeks, even a few months in some cases, dwelling on your ex, mourning the loss of that soulmate or romantic partner. At what point do you stop dwelling on your ex? Constantly reliving your life with that romantic partner, long after it has ended, is not a healthy way to live and can actually create blockages to a new romantic partner, love interest or soulmate entering your life.

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Dwelling on Your Ex or Past Relationship

If you are dwelling on your ex for an extended period of time, you are living in the past. Living in the past can contribute to depression because you feel that was the only time in your life when you were truly happy. Living in the past by dwelling on your ex, prevents you from finding happiness in the present. Hoping, dreaming and wishing that your ex will come back to you, and fantasizing how great the relationship could be, forces you to live in a future that may, or may not, exist. This will create perpetual anxiety and worry because you hope your ex will be there, but since you don’t know for certain, you live in anxiety and fear. One of the spiritual challenges of our lifetimes is to live in the now, and be fully present in our lives to do what we have to do. You only have so much energy, or life force, and focusing on the past and what should have, could have, would have been, if only….. robs you of the life force you have for the present. The same is true with living in a fantasy world, where you live together happily ever after, if he would only come back to you.

Dwelling on your ex can potentially sabotage any future relationship you might have. You have spent so much time dwelling on your ex and how it was in the beginning of the relationship that you have maximized his good points while minimizing the bad ones. By doing this you set a very high standard any potential romantic interests, or soulmates, will have a hard time reaching. These new guys wane in comparison to the virtues of your ex, because you have spent months, and sometimes years, idealizing him. Even though you are not romantically connected to your ex, your energy appears that you are in a relationship with him. When guys meet you they may not think you are available. The may believe your are taken, or in another relationship, because in a way your are. You are in a relationship with someone who is no longer there. You might meet a potential soulmate partner, or your twin flame, and totally miss it because you are still attached to the energy of your past relationship. You may miss opportunities for love because you don’t want to go out and meet someone new. You would rather stay home, eat bon-bons, watch Titanic, flipping through photos albums of your ex, while you go through his Facebook and Twitter profiles to see his latest friend adds.

All of this being said, there are times when you have fully detached from a soulmate, or romantic relationship, and are suddenly flooded with thoughts and memories of that person. This is very different from dwelling. You have severed ties with your ex and have moved on with your life. Quite possibly you are already in another romantic relationship. You might even be married. You may be having thoughts, memories or even dreams of that soulmate because they are getting ready to make another appearance in your life. This also indicates that he, more than likely, is thinking and even dreaming of you. It is also an indication that he is probably considering communicating with you. But this is very different that dwelling. Dwelling on your ex keeps the energy stuck. It perpetuates stagnation in your life.

Are you current dwelling on your ex, soulmate or past romantic relationship? Do you relive that relationship over and over in your head because it was the only time in your life you felt loved and happy? Do you believe no one will ever measure up to your romantic standards, because he would have to surpass those of the immortal ex? Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are here to help you cut through the clutter of your romantic past to help you prepare for a new love and new life. They are able to see deeply in your psyche to help you address what issues may be holding you back from releasing the past. During your psychic reading, if they see your ex returning, they will guide you to the steps you need to take to attain the desired outcome. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are expert relationship, soulmate, twin flame psychics, as well as certified life coaches, who will help you restore balance in your life and yourself.

5 Comments

  1. Help, I cant let go of my soulmate, he is deeply tangled in my soul, I try to get on with my life, have a boyfriend, but I just want to be free from the bondage. When we met we were lost in time and space for 2 days! We were married and together 14 years. One day he said I was his soulmate, the next, he moved in with a younger woman in which he is now married to. I was deeply hurt, he said he still loved me but couldnt love me so much anymore. My boyfriend is nice, handsome, and takes care of my son but he is not a soulmate, I would like to try to make it work and get my soulmate out of my dreams.

    • Hi Kristen,
      It takes time and time will help the process but it wont happen overnight. Also if you can think, really think, about how he made you feel when he left you and went to the other younger woman, and put that down on paper, and use your LOGICAL mind to look at that, see how it makes you feel, you will get over him a lot easier. Good luck!

  2. Hello there, I think I’m losing it. I haven’t seen my ex in 14 years and for the past 2 months he has been heavily on my mind. I think about him all day everyday and have constant dreams. One dream I had he was pushing his wife away as she tried to be affectionate. In the dreams he’s happy to see me and flirtatious. I am married and find it worrying to think about a person this much. Over the years, I haven’t thought of him that much as I moved on then all of a sudden I can’t get him out of my mind. What is going on? Help, please.

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  3. Hi, I was with my partner for 15 months and I believe that we were soul mates. We used to talk about getting married and having children. However, after a while my partner had changed his attitude towards me and would do everything to upset me and make me feel jealous. It had to a stage where he became very aggressive towards me so I had no choice but to end the relationship. It has now been several months since the relationship had ended and I am constantly looking at his Facebook page and all the girls who he is talking to, thinking about the future which we could have had, and constantly crying when I see him going out with his friends and having a good time without me. I have just found out that he has become involved with another girl and I don’t know how to cope. I have tried dating again but the men who ask me out, in my opinion, are nothing compared to my ex. I just wish that I could forget about the whole thing and be happy again but I honestly don’t think that I can live without him.
    Can you please give me some advice on what I should do.

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