What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories. ~George Eliot

Finding my Soulmate

Divine Timing and Soulmates: When is the Right Time?

Timing and soulmates should not appear in the same sentence because it can be truly confusing, even to us. Some people will meet a soulmate when they are young, while others connect with a soulmate later in life. There is no set time or date on which a soulmate will enter your life, because it is all based on divine timing.

Divine Timing and Soulmates: When is the Right Time?

Divine Timing and Soulmates: When is the Right Time?

 

Not everyone can meet their soulmate at the same time in their lives. Some are lucky enough to find their soulmate early on while some have to wait what may feel to them like several lifetimes. It is all based on the spiritual blueprint for our lives and the experiences we need to have for the fulfillment of our personal destinies. We gain these experiences through our journey here on Earth and the choices we make on a daily basis create our path.

 

We are partially responsible for the timing of a soulmate’s entry into our lives. For instance, you could make a bad decision, staying in the wrong relationship way past its expiration date. Instead of letting it go and freeing yourself from a dysfunctional relationship, you stay. And stay, and stay. You have probably wasted a ton of time trying to make the wrong person the right person. Look at all the negative experiences you went through because you kept hoping for change that was never going to materialize.

 

Sure, the universe often brings soulmates together when they are not single, but that is usually when the relationships have gone on way too long. If the relationships actually ended when they reached their expiration date, the timing of a soulmate meeting could have happened a lot sooner. While the timing of a soulmate entering our lives is not completely up to us, the choices we make will have an effect on the timing. So choose wisely.

 

Think about the long-term effects of the choices you make. You do not have to focus on the timing, the “when will I meet my soul mate” or obsess about it. Just have faith that the universe knows what it is doing and leave it to them. Keep yourself focused on yourself. Look closer at the spiritual path you are on. A spiritual journey is mostly a solitary one because many people ignore their spiritual practice when they are caught up in the rush of a soulmate relationship, until that relationship goes south.

 

It is a good time to put some energy into you. Take the time to think about where you see yourself in 3 years, 5, years, 10 years and beyond. Are you on the right path to make that all happen? If not, you may need to concentrate on what you have to do to get yourself on the right path. Put your energy there for now. What can you learn from your previous relationships? What mistakes have you made when you look back on them?

 

Are there any changes you need to make in your life before the Universe allows them to enter your life? It’s time to make yourself the best self you can be. Just like you would take the time to dress nice, smell good, put on make up and do your hair to go on any date, prepare yourself for your soulmate meeting. Want to lose weight? Stop smoking? Be less insecure and more confident?

 

Consider putting yourself through a soulmate bootcamp where you make the changes you know you need to make before you meet your soulmate, or you will have to do them when a soulmate is in your life. Soulmate relationships force those things about you that you should have changed long ago to surface. Getting rid of them beforehand will allow your soulmate relationship to flourish without having to focus on issues you needed to change.

 

Soulmates Are Rare Which is Why They Are Special

Soulmates are rare and that is what makes them so special. To feel so intensely connection to another human being on so many levels, is truly an extraordinary experience. Of course we can have strong feelings of love for numerous people over a lifetime, yet the love we have towards are soulmate is exceptional.

 

It is very rare to meet someone for the first time and feel as though you have known them forever, yet this is common with soulmates. So many clients have told us they found themselves tolerating behavior from their soulmate that they would never have put up with from another human being. Sometimes a soulmate will behave or think in ways that are foreign to their own personality. A strong, independent woman, for example, may find herself feeling less strong and wanting less independence now that her soulmate has entered the picture. Because of the rare bond, it is a common for both parties to change. How they change, whether it be for the better or the worse, is entirely up to them.

Soulmates Are Rare Which is Why They Are Special

                           Soulmates Are Rare 

Many people cling too hard to their soulmate relationship when a break would actually be beneficial. The heightened levels of emotion can cause extreme levels of drama and situations can get way out of hand. Also, if certain bad behaviors have been accepted or tolerated for too long of a time they only get worse.

 

Instead of clinging to something that has gone off course, it may be time to withdraw for a while. Because of the rare connection soulmates share, time apart between them is not really a bad thing. In normal relationships the term “out of sight out of mind” may apply, but not with soulmate relationships. The bond always remains, regardless of how far apart they may be. The universe created this rare pairing, and no mere mortal can destroy the connection.

 

If the relationship becomes too toxic, the bond can be diminished, but in truth, it still remains. It just makes it much easier to deal with. You will always have a special place reserved for your soulmate, regardless of how much time has passed since you have seen each other.

 

Because soul mates are so rare, waiting for a soulmate to materialize can make someone impatient. The universe is in charge of timing, and they decide when the time is right. You may want your soulmate to appear so you can have the romantic relationship you always wanted. Well, the universe’s prime purpose is not that of romantic matchmakers. They use the pairing of romantic partners to create change, and without that change, you don’t get the romantic relationship you wanted.

 

If your soulmate relationship is not going smoothly, it is time to get real with yourself. Look at both yourself and your partner and see what changes you are both resisting. You many try to blame it all on your soulmate, but it is your fault too. You have been using the rare connection and feelings you have towards this person as an excuse to not change your own way of doing, thinking or feeling. Until you get yourself right, the relationship won’t be right. So don’t expect to have the reward without doing some work. Soulmates come at a cost. So if you have been hoping, wishing and praying to be blessed with a soulmate, be prepared to pay the price that comes with it.

Stop Trying to Make the Wrong Person Your Soulmate

Stop trying to make the wrong person your soulmate. Not everyone you have strong feelings for is a soulmate. Not everyone you have a crazy relationship with is a soul mate. Not everyone you have great chemistry is a soulmate. Not everyone you have a dream about is a soulmate.

Too many people try to make the wrong person a soulmate connection. The intensity levels in soulmate relationships can feel very similar to toxic, dysfunctional ones. The emotions and drama run very high. For someone who has not yet met their soulmate, they can confuse the wrong person as a soul mate.

Stop Trying to Make the Wrong Person Your Soulmate

Stop Trying to Make the Wrong Person Your Soulmate

No matter how hard you try, you cannot make the wrong person your soul mate. It’s not up to you to create your soulmate, that is for the universe to do. Too many people confuse the wrong person with a soulmate, and the results can be disastrous. Someone can spend too much wasted time with the wrong person because they believe they are a soulmates when in realty they are not. They could actually be keeping themselves from finding a true soulmate partner because they stay with the wrong person.

Try looking at the relationship from a neutral position. It can be very hard to tell when you are actually in the relationship but you have to try to keep an emotional distance. Just because you have a hard time imaging being without someone doesn’t make them a soulmate. Even some people in a toxic relationship have a hard time imagining themselves with out them. If you think about someone all the time, it does not indicate you are in a soulmate relationships. People in highly dysfunctional relationships think about each other all the time.

You may have some similarities to your romantic partner but this doesn’t mean you truly are soulmates. It is not in your best interest, for you romantic success and happiness, to insist  the wrong person your soulmate. So many people have contacted us to tell us they know their current partner is their soulmate. Yet we read it differently because we are able to look at it from the deeper connection of the soul. Many times we have to tell them the person they called about is not their soulmate, and very often the wrong person for them. Unfortunately they don’t want to hear it as they have already decided it is a soulmate connection and can get very angry when we disagree.

Sometimes we hold on to the wrong people and need a reason to justify it. Telling yourself the wrong person is a soulmate can give you a reason for staying. If you believe all soulmate relationships work out you may erroneously believe your current situation is destined to be sunshine and roses one day. Don’t kid yourself. It’s not going to happen. You need to stop trying to make the wrong person your soulmate. Are you hanging in there with the wrong person hoping it will get better because you believe you are soulmates? That is a waste of your precious time. There is nothing wrong with searching for your soulmate, just don’t think every person you meet and like is one.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate obsession is very real and sometimes that strong connection you feel for someone can transform to a darker place. When people finally meet their soulmate, their love for them can become an obsession. They feel so much, too soon, for their soulmate and desire the relationship move along quickly so they can get to what they perceive to be the finish line. They are so excited the one they searched and hoped for is finally a part of their life. Unfortunately, they didn’t anticipate all the chaos and upheaval that can come with a soulmate relationship.

When these problems arise, and more often than not they will, soulmate obsession can take over. If you have read our many articles, you will know that soulmates often have a break period, or full break-up, in their relationship. This break can be long or short, occur only once, or repeatedly. During these breaks one of the soulmates can become obsessed with their partners every breath, thought, feeling and action. They feel that if they have this information they will have some sort of power, instead of feeling powerless, to help get through the period of disconnect and make sure their soulmate has not found someone else.

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

Soulmate Obsession: The Dark Side of a Soulmate Connection

They become more concerned with what is going on with their soulmate than what is transpiring in their own lives. Every little tidbit of information gleaned from social media, their friends or even stalking, they enhance and elaborate on with their imagination. This is not what the universe wants. The universe brings soulmates together to learn important life lessons and provide personal and spiritual growth. Are you stuck in a cycle of soulmate obsession wondering what they are doing and when they are coming back? Soulmate obsession can actually delay, or prevent altogether, the return of your soulmate because you are too focused on them rather than working on yourself.

Soulmate obsession is not relegated to waiting for a soulmate’s return. Many people become obsessed trying to find a soulmate. They feel they have waited forever and want to find them as quickly as possible, because they somehow feel incomplete without them. Every day an obsession with meeting a soulmate can grow exponentially and so does their disappointment and negativity. This obsession with “when will I meet my soul mate” doesn’t help anything. In actuality, it can hurt. How can you expect to attract your soul mate when you are sending out so much negativity? Since you are not in charge of when your soul mate shows up, why even focus on it? The universe will bring them in at the right time. That is their decision, not yours. So why try to take control over the universe by obsessing about your soulmate? If you believe in soulmates, and that there is one for you, let go of the “when”, because that is in the hands of destiny. Perhaps patience could be your lesson to learn?

The darkest part of soulmate obsession can occur when a soulmate ends a relationship. After being in an intense, super connected relationship with someone, you may find yourself at your lowest. As we mentioned, this is not the time to stalk their social media or try to discover everything going on their lives. This is the time for self-care where you truly focus on yourself. The emotional devastation that comes with losing a soulmate will take some time to heal. It is better to remove anything in your environment reminding you of your soulmate relationship and make a firm agreement with yourself to stay off the internet. Finding out what is going on in their life is not going to make you feel any better, it will only keep you stuck in the cycle of soulmate obsession. This is the time to spend time with friends and family who can nurture and support you, seek professional counseling to work through your loss or embark upon a journey of self-development.

The intensity of the connection between soulmates makes it easy to obsess. When the going gets bad, it is better to have faith in the connection that brought you together. It is the lack of faith in the connection between soulmates when soulmate obsession creeps in. Do your best to keep the faith.

You may also want to consider the following posts:

Soulmate Separation Anxiety

How Can I Meet My Soulmate

Dark Night of the Soul and Soulmate Relationships

 

Soulmate Relationships: Fated and Non-Fated

Soulmate relationships come with a certain amount of destiny and fate attached to them, but not all relationships are fated. When we speak of destiny and soulmates, it is indicated they come from that spiritual place of pre-destined meetings that you agreed to before birth. A fated relationship, such as a soulmate relationship, will shape your life by bringing experiences that you would not have had, if this person had not entered your life. In other words, if you did not have this fated meeting, your life path may very well have taken a different route.  When it is a fated relationship, the energy of it will be bigger than both of you, and it will unfold as the Universe wants it to.

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Soulmate Relationships: Fated and Non-Fated

When things are fated in your life, many people and beings conspire and are used to create that reality, and it is truly a cosmic experience. Soulmate relationships, and others you are meant to encounter in this lifetime, will enter your life no matter what you do. It is a concert being conducted by the Universe. When you have this experience you will see the flow of what seem like random events converge together to create the mystical experience that defines a fated relationship. When you are engaged with someone who is a fated relationship, whether that be a friendship or soulmate relationship, they will always make a big impact on your life and be part of your life for a long time.

We can also have relationships that are defined by non-fated meetings. These people come into our lives to teach us a lesson, for one particular reason or another, and then move on. As we have discussed in many other blogs, a soulmate relationship does not necessarily last a lifetime, as it could also only last for a season or a reason. And that reason is to teach you a life lesson about yourself that must be learned for your own personal growth, and then they move on. Even though we may have formed a strong emotional bond to that individual during the time the life lesson was in play, we must also realize that once that lesson has been assimilated into our psyche, it is time for us to let them go, thank them for the lesson and move on as best we can. And yes, we realize that moving on may be easier said than done, but that will also be part of the lesson.

So how exactly can you determine if a meeting is fated or non-fated? In a fated meeting, as mentioned above, the Universe is definitely moving things around to “force” a meeting and it will only happen through divine design. Here is an example: Lets say you have a trip planned but when you get to the airport, your flight is cancelled. Even though you had been looking forward to the trip for many months you wonder now if you will ever get there. Finally, two days later, you are on an outbound plane to your destination. Instead of having 12 days in your locale, you now only have 10, and so you must adjust your sight-seeing activities accordingly. It is very frustrating to you to redo your entire schedule because you still want to see everything. One day you end up being somewhere you were not supposed to be on that day. Actually you were supposed to be somewhere very far away from that spot, but because you adjusted your itinerary, you were there. And BOOM! you meet someone and it has a very mythical, mystical feel to it. You were not supposed to be there. That was not your plan. But the Universe, and greater powers that be, orchestrated that entire sequence of events so you would be there, at the right time and the right place. Pretty amazing isn’t it?

Remember, non-fated relationships are just as important to our personal growth as fated ones. Also consider that the Universe brings into our lives the people and events we need at that moment to inspire us and cause us to change. If you have been in a non-fated relationship, be grateful for the experience and the lesson that came with it because in some way that person touched your life.

You don’t have to go out there and look for these types of connections. When they are supposed to come into your life they will and there is not one thing you can do to encourage it along. Go out. Live your life. When things start to appear chaotic, like the cancellation of plans, etc., take a step back and wonder what is happening and allow the Divine to work in your life.

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